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Real Men Dating “Lesson 3”

Guest Blogger and Musician, Cy Bryon

“Lesson 3”
So often attractions are so commonly physical nowadays that getting to know someone has become a lost art. You think just because you’ve seen her with her clothes off, you think you’ve seen her naked.

Ok, so, tell me her dreams. Tell me what breaks her heart. Tell me what she’s passionate about, what makes her cry? Tell me about her childhood. Even better yet tell me one, just one memorable story in her life that doesn’t include you…….. I’ll wait ??????????????

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You need to look at her as if she is art.

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Learn her curves, her lines, where they begin and end. Discover her depth. Interpret her as her creator sculpted her. See her with imagination. She’s not just beautiful, she’s art and art makes you feel something .

Of course, she accepts your compliments on her face, her hair, her body, etc. graciously; and she is, indeed, beautiful. But not like just a girl in a magazine. She was beautiful for the way she thought, the way her eyes sparkled when she talked about something she loved, for her ability to make other people smile even though she was sad. She was beautiful because she fearlessly wore her scars with pride. She wasn’t beautiful for something as temporary as her looks.

You can compliment her over and over and she will smile when she hears it, for she has that beauty that eyes can’t deny. Just Remember, if she’s amazing she won’t be easy, if she’s easy she won’t be amazing. If she’s worth it you won’t give up and if you give up, you are not worthy. Yes, she is beautiful, yet strong enough to only be moved once you see her for the beauty that is her spirit.

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The Considerations of Breaking Up 

The Considerations of Breaking Up

Breaking up with your partner is one of the hardest things that you can go through. When you get close to somebody and let them into your life, it can be difficult to consider that they may be moving forward and sharing their intimacy with somebody else further on down the line. While it may be what’s best for you in the long run, it certainly doesn’t feel like it at the time. But feelings are funny things, and they can cloud judgement quite a lot. While you can’t put your emotions fully to one side, there are some things to consider when in a clearer state of mind.

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Marriage

If you are married, there are a few things to consider. It may be better to stay married for certain tax benefits and pension considerations, but if that is not an option then get a good company and a good representative on your case, such as a divorce lawyer from IRB Law. It can be a tough process to go through, but it’s for the best if you can’t come to any agreements on property and possessions and will also free you up for any future marriage to a potential partner.

Children

If you have children together, it’s going to be a heartbreaking time for them too. What they have grown up with and have adapted to is about to change. While this can sound scary and enough to put you off the whole idea, you need to consider their needs too. Listen to them and constantly reassure them. When you are young, your parents are your world – to see your world split in half is not a nice thing to see.

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Friends

Friends are there for you – at least, that’s how the theme tune goes. If you have made friends together, there are some who will take sides and some who will support the both of you. Other will just slink away, and it’s something that you have to come to accept. If you drag your friends into your problems without them wanting to be a part of it, you face losing them completely. Keep your personal life separate and remember that your partner is their friend too – it can be quite hurtful for them to hear nasty things being said.

The Future

You must always look for the optimism in everything in life. If you are more open to the positives than the negatives, this will set you in good stead for getting on and thriving out of what can be an otherwise awful time. Keep those who matter close to you and indulge yourself in the things that you like. There may be a time when you get back together lodged somewhere in the future, but don’t get caught up in trying to bring up the past to ensure what you’ve got set ahead of you. There are so many people in the world that it’s possible that you just haven’t found your soulmate yet – your time will come.

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The Five Crucial Stages Of A Romantic Relationship, And How To Know You Are Ready For Them

The Five Crucial Stages Of A Romantic Relationship, And How To Know You Are Ready For Them

Romantic relationships are amazing and stressful. But wonderful, yet can be confusing. In fact, they can have you thinking that up is down and chasing around in circles. But romantic relationships don’t have to be so confusing. Especially if you use the guide below to work out which stage you are at, and whether you are ready to move on to the next one. Then you will be able to move forward with confidence and truly enjoy your life as part of a couple.

You are ready to date

How do you know when you are ready to date someone? Well, most people think it’s when they are lonely. But this isn’t actually the best reason to start a relationship. In fact, a lot of advice now, is that you have to learn who you are first. Before getting tied down with someone else.

This is because if you get into a relationship too early is easy to start to take on some of the other person’s personality before yours is fully formed. In fact, this can happen at any age if you haven’t first taken the time to get to know yourself and what you want out of life.

But what does getting to know yourself look like? Well, it can be anything from exploring the things that you are interested in. Such as art, literature, exercise or any other hobbies. Or it can involve traveling the world and have new experiences on you own. Which is not only tons of fun but will show you that you can cope when thing get tough, without being codependent on another person. Or if could be that you give yourself some time to pursue your career goals. So you can dedicate your focus and energy to that and having some fun, before you decide to settle down.

Most importantly getting to know yourself is about not letting being single define you, and learning to deal with emotions of aloneness is a constructive way. By doing this, you know that any relationship you do decide to get into will be for the right reason. That is that you have a true connection with that person, rather than the fact that you feel uncomfortable being on your own.

You are ready to ‘go steady.’

OK, so this isn’t the 1950’s! So maybe ‘going steady’ isn’t the best term to use. But you know what I mean! I mean dating someone exclusively, making a commitment to them as your significant other, and working towards bringing your lives together as a couple.

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But how can you tell that you are ready for this stage of your relationship? Well, despite the lovely notion of a whirlwind romance, for most folks it takes a little time to know if you want to invest your emotion in another person or not. Yes, it’s easy to mistake the first flushes of a relationship for something more lasting. But in reality it’s best to wait for a little and see how things work out in the longer term.

That is partly because it takes a while for you to really get to know the other person and what make them tick. As well as how this fits in with you and your goals in life.

Generally, you know that you are ready to go steady in a relationship if other potential suitors start to lose their appeal. Maybe you are thinking about the person all of the time? Or perhaps you have started imagining what your future together would look like? If this is the case, then it’s probably a good idea to have the exclusivity talk and make it official.

You are ready to move in

Now, back in the old days, it used to be that folks would date for a while and then get married. But that isn’t always the case now. For a lot of people, there is a stage in between where they cohabit or move in together.

But how do you know that you are ready for this momentous step? Well, if you are spending an inordinate amount of time looking at houses for rent online and in the paper, that might be your first clue. You are obviously thinking about how it would be to further integrate your lives.

Or it might be that you are sick and tired of living out of a suitcase. As you and your other half spend so much time together, one or other of you is always at the others place.

But moving in together is a big decision and shouldn’t just be based on convenience. You have to think about the longer term effect that it could have on you as a couple as well.

For instance, it can be a lot harder to break up if you live together. As you not only have to stop seeing that person, but you have to deal with the financial and material issues of splitting one household back into two.

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You are ready to get engaged

So some people might take this step without living together first, perhaps for religious reasons? While others will do this after they have lived together for a while. But how do you know that it is the right time to pop the question, or say yes when it’s asked?

Well, first of all, if you are dreaming of diamond rings, and your other half getting down on one knee, you need to come back to reality, first. Yes, it’s super fun getting engaged and celebrating your love and commitment with your friends and family.

But getting engaged is a promise to marry, and spend the rest of your life with that person. If you can’t see that happening, then it might be better to not take this step in the first place.

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Secondly, your decision needs to be based on the amount of emotional intimacy that you share as a couple. With the general idea being that you see each other as soul mates. Meaning that you feel that this person gets you in a way that no one else has, and that you have an unshakable connection and respect for one another.

If you worry that you will break up every time you have an argument, then maybe you are not quite at the getting engaged stage. As you need to be able to weather the bad times as well as the good times to make it succeed.

Having said that, it is unlikely that you won’t have any doubts as to whether you are doing the right. In fact, it would be worrisome if you didn’t, as then you obviously weren’t thinking about things deeply enough. Which you should be doing when making a true, life long commitment.

In fact, that is why having the time of being engaged before you actually get married is so useful. This is because it allows you to work out any remaining issues in the relationship, while you prepare for the wedding.

You are ready to get married

It’s funny, but if you are an anxious person, you can know down deep inside that you are ready to get married. But still, worry from time to time in the lead up to the wedding whether you are doing the right thing.

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But sometimes instead of looking for a huge thunderbolt moment, it’s the little things that can convince you that you have made the right choice for your life partner. For example, if you are calmer when you are with them than when you aren’t, it’s a good sign.

Or the small fact that they take the time and effort every day to make you smile can help reassure you that you have truly found the one you are meant to marry.

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Real Men Dating “Lesson 2”

Guest Blogger and Musician, Cy Bryon

“Lesson 2”
A few months ago a friend asked what my opinion of a real relationship should be!

Well here ya go lesson #2 ? It’s when naked means unveiling your walls ,your fears, and emotions.

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It’s when a kiss can make you weak and tremble. It’s when there are no secrets only raw truths. It’s feeling safe and comfortable and never questioning. It’s having a person so close to you that undressing their mind and thoughts is the sexiest thing you can do. It’s loving without fear and jumping without regret ! It’s leaving for work and rushing home just bc you crave that person. Finding that a night in can be 10x the amount of fun as any bar. It’s little notes randomly placed to be found later just saying i love you or your beautiful . Just cooking dinner while they tell you about their day over a drink . It’s never wondering how you’ll feel tomorrow bc you know you just know that they desire you with the same intense passion that intoxicates you every second. It’s sleeping every night with nothing but their name on your lips.

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Real Men Dating “Lesson 1”

Guest Blogger and Musician, Cy Bryon

“Lesson 1”
To all you Fu@kBoys that are causing women to think chivalry is dead and good guys don’t exist,

If you think this Feb 14th is just a date… If you think birthdays and anniversaries are nothing special than just another year…

Love isn’t remembering to get flowers and a card the day b4 and being proud you made a last ditch effort.

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It’s called appreciation.

Tell her that instead of buying something just once. Money can’t touch the feeling left inside her mind when she knows she’s appreciated. I’ll help ya out real quick, Don’t tell her she’s pretty. Instead, tell her how conversations with her can keep you awake all night with intrigue. Tell her how her scent captivates you like freshly brewed coffee. Tell her that she is enough even if others are wanting her to feel otherwise. Tell her how she makes silence look gorgeous and tell her how she makes everything worth the efforts. Don’t tell her she’s pretty, tell her you appreciate she exists. !!!!!!!!

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The Privilege Of Spontaneity

The Privilege Of Spontaneity

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Spontaneity is one of the greatest things any of us can ever allow ourselves the pleasure of doing. Most of the time, being spontaneous really means being random, but being random is fine. It is more than fine. Life is so focused around routines that it is no wonder more people don’t go mad. We go from school to college to work to retirement. We set our alarms at 6.30am every day, leave the house 8am, get to work at 8.45, go to Subway for lunch, leave work at 6pm, have dinner at 7.30pm, watch our favorite Netflix show and go to bed at 10pm. That is the humdrum noise of so many lives, lives full of stress; so why not be a little bit spontaneous. Better yet, be spontaneous with your best friend.

This could be your wife or husband. It could be your college roommate. It could be anyone, but be spontaneous with them. Doing it alone is amazing in the sense that you have done it alone and learned something new about yourself. But doing it with a friend brings that element of silliness into it, that little bit of fun that doesn’t get allowed out when it is just you. But what random spontaneous things can you do?

Well, chances are you have resisted the urge to do a lot of these in the past, so next time you feel that bubbling energy that says “do it, do it, do it” why not give in and have a laugh. You’ll feel so much better after a good ab-aching giggle. Trust us.

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Spread Happiness

Speak to random people, but do it with an infectious glee. Say hi to people passing by on the street, or start up conversations with those sat around you on the bus, or on the subway. Too many people are afraid to step outside their comfort zones in this sense, but meeting people and making brief half-hour friendships is so an incredible thing to do. There is a word, Sonder, which is the recognition that each passerby has a life as complex and vivid as your own, so why not hear their stories. If you’re not feeling brave enough, or don’t know how to break the ice of random conversation with random people, then why not pretend you don’t know the area. Ask them for advice on where to go and what to see. You’ll be amazed at how such a simple segue will lead into a good old laugh.

Dual Headphones

This is one of our favorite random activities, but go and by an earphone splitter so that both of you can listen to the same music, plug it into your iPhone and head off on a walk. Take it in turns to choose a song, but do it alphabetically. This is such an epic and subtle way to make incredible memories. You’ll see your surroundings in a whole new light, unable to talk to one another, as you listen to each others song choice and look at your surroundings, taking it all in. You’ll see things you never saw before, in see things in a whole new way. You’ll give songs new meanings and you’ll bond with one another without even speaking; it is totally random, and spontaneous, yet incredible too.

Road Trip

Do it, just jump in the car and drive. Put $20 worth of fuel in the tank and go as far as it will take you. See what you stumble across. See what adventures you end up going on. If you see something that catches your eye, then stop and check it out. The other thing you can do to add to the total bonkers-ness of it all is to each pack a bag of totally random things to make the journey that much more memorable. Take candyfloss with you. Or pack a couple of longboards. Go online and see what dashboard items you can get, because there are some incredibly fun things out there. What’s more, they can be cheap too; some companies offer $5~$90 OFF – Custom Bobbleheads Unique Craftsmanship. Why not pack a tent and turn your spontaneous road trip into a spontaneous camping trip. This is your chance to travel with your best friend without going far, enjoying your own neck of the woods, bonding, and laughing, and do it for no good reason. That is what makes this a privilege, is the fact we can do this sort of thing, knowing some people can’t.

Street Musicians

The world is full of talented people. It is packed full of them. Yet all too often we don’t actively look for them, or we don’t give them the time of day, or we don’t see their talents because we are too busy caring about our own little world. So why not stop and take it all in for a minute? Why not go and find street musicians in your area, sit and watch them, dance, sing with them and drop a couple of dollars into each hat. Seeing your favorite band live is a gig that probably costs upward of $60, and yet for $10 you could go to five live gigs. If you can’t spare that amount, though, why not come up with a totally random points system based on your preferences, and then go back and tip the performer you liked best – you never know what might happen. Stop and listen to each one, that will make their day more than you know, but then score them based on song choices, instruments, energy, style, and anything else you can think of.

Events

Every city has an array of stuff going on, so why not go to the first event you walk past or hear of. Head to the local tourist office and ask them to pick a random event that is happening in town today. It could be an environmental march, it could be a seminar, or the opening of a café, or even an art exhibition. It doesn’t matter what it is, it just matters that you embody spontaneity and go. Who knows, you may learn something incredible. You may find you love a certain niche of art, or have a preordained love for a new food, or anything. The thing to remember is that life should be about new experiences, so throw yourself into them as often as you can. We are all learning about ourselves, and that never stops.

Dress Up

Too many of us take life too seriously, so why not go the other way and be as silly as possible. If you have a dressing up box then great. If not, raid your wardrobe, or your parents’ wardrobe, see if there are any decidedly dodgy and retro clothes that you can wear. Why not go one step further and have a 1970s inspired photoshoot. Take what you can find, head to a fancy dress shop, get some wigs, head to local landmarks and hold a hippy-inspired photoshoot. One day you’ll look back at these photos and smile. These will be the good old days when you were carefree and happy. So be weird, be wild, be odd and be you. Trust us. You’ll only regret it if you’re not.

The world is so full of opportunities to say yes, but all too often we don’t. We forget to live in the moment or get the most out of everyday. We believe in things like Carpe Diem, but the reality is very different. Imagine if every morning you woke up and found $86,400 in your bank, with one catch; anything you don’t spend that day is lost. It doesn’t carry over to the next day. You can’t save it, you can only spend it. Well, you would spend every cent, right? Well, we have 86,400 seconds to spend each day, so why not spend them with the same mentality.

Now go and be spontaneous.

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A New Hierarchy Of Needs

A New Hierarchy Of Needs

Are you where you always wanted to be, but still unhappy? Meeting your goals and still facing dissatisfaction can be tough. Where do you go from there? The strange thing about happiness is that it doesn’t fall on one factor. When you focus on getting everything right with one aspect of your life, you can neglect others. As Maslow’s hierarchy of needs can teach us, satisfaction doesn’t come from one thing. There are a few things to get right before we say we’re happy. Even then, you may find that happiness is more elusive than you thought. But, it’s a start, right?

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HOME

You can’t find success in the complex aspects of life if you haven’t got the basics right. Food and shelter is at the bottom of Maslow’s lists. If you haven’t got those, the rest of your efforts could go to waste! But, having a roof over your head isn’t enough. What Maslow failed to consider is that you won’t be happy with your home until you have it the way you want it. So, get started making a home you can be happy in. Whether you need a Kitchen refurb, or a complete redecoration, get to work. Think, too, about the furniture you buy. If you’ve put no effort into your choices, you’re less likely to be happy with the results. Buying furniture you love will add to the sense of satisfaction and make the home your own!

WORK

Even the perfect home won’t solve your blues if you’ve got a job you hate. In a world where money talks, it’s easy to get stuck in a career. You know the way it goes; you get a job for the time being, and before you know it you’ve been there for years. If you dread each day, there’s no way you can be as happy as you’d hoped. It’s time to wake up and realize the truth. Life is too short to wish your days away. There are many reasons we stay in a career that makes us unhappy. The most prominent being fear of failure. Maybe someone convinced you that you would never get where you wanted. Perhaps you convinced yourself. But, you don’t know until you try. Take a risk. What’s the worst that could happen?     If you have a job you love but still aren’t happy, look at other aspects, like…

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LOVE

Love and companionship are, of course, necessary for satisfaction. Without them, we can lose sight of purpose. If you’ve been without love, it’s time to get searching. Again, you need to put yourself out there to reap the rewards. Or, are you in a relationship that’s not working? If there’s something you need to discuss with your partner, it’s time to get it out in the open. You may not be able to work through your issues, but it’s important you try. If things fall apart, you’ll be free to pursue something that gets you closer to where you want to be!

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How To Be Your Own Best Friend

How To Be Your Own Best Friend

Take Yourself On A Trip

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A lot of people think that they can’t go on vacation alone – but the opposite is actually true. Going travelling by yourself is one of the most liberating things you can ever do. You can be truly selfish while you’re there, and do exactly what you want every day. If you love art then you can spend all day in a single gallery instead of having a partner or friend huffing with boredom beside you. You can dip into all the little cafes you like to find where has the best coffee and you can sit in the sun and read all day. If you want, you can always find someone to make friends with in your hotel or locality – but remember that being alone doesn’t mean that you’re lonely.

Get To Know Yourself

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If you’ve been in relationships for a long time then it’s a good idea to figure out who you are when you’re by yourself. Try out different things to find something that fits. Maybe you’re more of a bookworm than you ever thought, or you’ll discover during a French class that you’d like to move to Paris one day for a few months. There are so many things out there in the world that you’ve never experienced. You could even try out getting a psychic reading – look online to find a psychic phone number. Even if you don’t totally believe in it, it’ll make you question yourself and what you believe and what you want.

Get Yourself Fit And Healthy

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There’s nothing better than feeling as though you’re strong and that your body is in great condition. Sign up for the gym and pay for a few sessions of personal training so you figure out how to use the equipment without injuring yourself and so you find out what sort of workout routine is best for you. If the gym doesn’t appeal, then try going for some long hikes and discovering more about your local area – you could even take a friend along with you! You could also try out a yoga or Pilates class if you want to work on your core strength. Let’s face it – yoga’s just as good for your spiritual health as your physical.

Be Kind To Yourself

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The strange thing about most human beings is that we just don’t treat ourselves as well as we do other people. Make yourself and what you want a priority in your own life, and take note when you do something that you’re proud of and happy with. Remember that your best is good enough and that no one will ever be perfect (and that the people who appear to be are pretty much just faking it). If you feel emotionally exhausted then it’s okay to say no to people – being assertive is one of the healthiest skills you can acquire and one of the best ways to make yourself happier. Make sure that you say ‘I love you’ to yourself every once in a while to – at the end of the day, you’re all that you have.

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Struggling To Feel Like Yourself As a New Mom? Try These Ideas

Struggling To Feel Like Yourself As a New Mom? Try These Ideas

When you become a mom, it is such a whirlwind and mixture of feelings. For a while, your body can feel completely different, and if you are nursing, can feel like it isn’t even just your own. It can be hard to feel sexy again as you can look and feel different from how you did before.

To start with, sleep can be more important. So when the baby takes a nap, you should too. But as they get a little older, it can be a good idea to use that time to do something for yourself. Getting out of a rut of just putting your sweats on each day can make a massive difference to how you feel. But if this is you that is being described, then there are some other things that you could try, to help you feel more like yourself again. Here are a few ideas for you.

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Get Ready Every Day

It can sound a bit silly, as you will be waking up each day and getting on with things. But when you just stay in pajamas or sweats, they can make you feel worse about yourself. They are unflattering, and if you’re feeling larger after having a baby, it can make that seem worse. So get yourself showered and dressed every day. Even if you plan to be at home all day, you’ll feel much better when you’re showered and ready.

Make Changes

It can take time for stomachs to shrink back down to their normal size. So if you are feeling a little depressed about the weight you have to lose, then it is a good idea to make some physical changes to yourself. The weight will come off, but it won’t happen in one afternoon. But a haircut or color can. The same goes for a new piercing for example. You could even consider something like a tummy tuck if your baby is a bit older now and you are still not back to feeling like yourself. You could visit DavidHalpernMD.com for more information on tummy tucks, for example. It could help you to get back into your pre-pregnancy clothes and make the world of difference to how you feel. Just make sure that you are doing it for the right reasons, though.

Try Makeup

If you weren’t much of a makeup girl before having a baby, then this probably won’t help. But if you were, then part of the getting ready is getting back into your normal routine of putting makeup on. There are some great ‘mom hacks’ that you can find online, like modernmom.com/beauty-hacks-111623.html, for instance. There are lots of quick ways to get yourself ready, as well as learning to do pretty much everything with one hand now!

The bottom line is that you won’t feel like you do forever. There are things that you can do to help yourself feel like you did before. Just take it at your own pace, though, as you have a precious little bundle to care for first.

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You Have To Think About The Kids

You Have To Think About The Kids

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Divorce is such a horrible thing, but it happens. You never planned for it, but it happens. For whatever reason, it has happened. It comes with stresses, worries, hurt, love, anxieties and pain. But the hardest thing about divorcing the person you once loved is protecting your children. They are your every thought, that piece of you that you will do anything to protect. Of course, it is worth noting that a lot of children cope with divorce fantastically, and come out unharmed and unaffected.

But not all of them, which is why you will need to do everything you can to ensure they are as protected from the effects of your divorce as best as you possibly can. That is where we come in. We have gathered as much market research as possible, including advice from experts and divorcees, to ensure that your children remain the priority through this incredibly tough time.

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Set The Priority Straight

Your marriage may have broken down, but you still share your children, and that you always will. You are both going to be responsible for raising them to be incredible adults. As such, you need to reaffirm with the other parent that your children’s emotional health is at the very top of the priority list. Whatever happens, you will protect them from harm and hurt. That is your duty as responsible parents, and that chat needs to happen from the outset.

No Fighting

Emotions will be high, and often uncontrollable. They will flare at times and you will get under each other’s skin. But try and control your emotions as much as possible, because the more control you have the easier it will be to remain calm and not fight. This is going to be in your child’s best interests. To help you, we suggest you hire an attorney who is experienced in this area of law, such as Barton Wood. It is also wise to seek mediation, and perhaps go to counseling together. The sooner you can tolerate each other, the better it will be for your child.

Be Role Models

You are both role models for your child. You are the biggest influences on their lives. You will want to show them how to be mature, how to act when the going gets tough, how to approach undesirable situations and how to show strength. Remember, showing strength doesn’t have to be pushing. It can be in accepting the other person’s opinion too.

Be Involved

A parent needs both parents. They deserve it too. So no matter how much you may despise each other, you cannot let your child suffer because of your pride. By both having an involvement you drastically reduce the chances that your child will grow up with emotional health problems. There is no point telling yourself that you would make a great single parent because it is irrelevant. What you should be telling yourself is that your child needs both parents in their life. It takes bravery to do that, but being a good parent is all about being brave.

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