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Bring back Old-school Dating

by Cy B.

Bring back Old-school Dating

Since it seems to be all the topic on most social media platforms, I have been asked to reflect upon the topic of dating. The Do’s and Don’ts of today. For those not necessarily understanding today’s dating techniques it is a tough platform to tackle.

Over the years so much has changed and now deemed as ‘acceptable’ nature or so-called behavior. What was once known as dating has now become almost a mythical word that has lost meaning, just as ‘courting’ had in the 70’s. Nowadays, it’s almost as if social media decides your fate.

What happened to sending flowers to an address that doesn’t start with www.. or when phone conversations ended because one person fell asleep talking and you stayed on the line just to listen to them breath, because for that moment it was enough? What happened to working disagreements out and fixing problems? Not just acting like, hey I’ll just ignore this and let it build–not say anything and allow it to eventually explode? When did it become acceptable, bouncing from person to person and just leaving people in pieces because communication and motives were never clear, only expectations?

Y’all, love hurts.

I agree, yet expectations hurt even more when led by blinded by love. One of the worst feelings in life is falling in love alone. Both sexes mastered this little game it seems. Because dating has detoured so much, it’s like motives have selfishly changed nowadays. What was once a considered a rebound is, sadly, very popular now and is almost accepted as a relationship status. ‘First base’ and ‘second base’, once took time to access, is now almost expected on a first date by many, when before couples had butterflies even thinking about advancing. It’s so much more when someone can undress your mind.

Here’s a tip, gentlemen undress a womans mind and the body will follow. When advancing too quickly, you cannot touch the passion entrapped within a womans mind. Dont ask her about her imagination, become her imagination. If you feel the need to ask her something, ask her about her passions, her fears, her hopes and dreams. Ask her what she wants in life and what makes her laugh and cry. Take time to discover her favorite color and ask why. Listen to the stories that make her, her.

Those stories created the art that is her. Listen, and in front of your very own eyes, she will allow you the view the creativity through the events and happenings that has helped shape this beautiful woman. You can then see past the visible beauty, and witness her depth, pain, pleasure, vulnerability and the love in which she possesses in her beautiful soul. This my friend is a gift. A gift that you can give each other without a price tag.

Take it back to the days when snap chat and Instagram weren’t dating sites and cheating portals… When ten likes didnt change your mind about a person… When advertising to your following what you want isn’t even close to what you actually desire. Take it back to when catfishing meant there was going to be a good dinner.

All this back and forth mental-game playing, and men this… and women that… blah… blah… blah… We all need to step back and think. We have all been that broken heart, and we all have exes and problems. But remember folks, before social media was in relationships, communication between two people existed. Studies have shone, relationships worked out alot longer just a short decade ago. I’m not bashing social media. Guys and Gals remember, social media doesn’t ruin relationships, acting single or disrespectful towards your partner on social media in public/private chat rooms, does!

If you are searching for a lady, then be a gentleman. Ladies, if you want a gentleman, then simply be a lady. Chivalry is not dead, it’s just waiting to be, as they say today, digitally remastered by those who value its lost meaning.

We add all these new words to the dictionary every year that make no sense. Yet these don’t change… Love, commitment, honesty, trust, chivalry, dating, communication, integrity, humanity, respect, dedication, desire, passion, and the most evil one of all, lust. One must remember, in life, the most beautiful things are seen with the eyes closed. With eyes closed, you are led by trust. With eyes open, you’re often blinded by lust. Love doesn’t hurt, expectations do. Be open about what you want from the beginning. When it’s out on the table then it’s so much easier to understand–no guessing games, no one being led on, and no surprises.

Like the most famous misquote of Eldridge Cleaver, ‘If you’re not the solution, you are part of the problem.’ It’s simple, bring back LOVE.

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20+ Years Together? 3 Tips on How to Spice Things Up in Your Bedroom

20+ Years Together? 3 Tips on How to Spice Things Up in Your Bedroom

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Passion does wane in long-term relationships. It’s a part of life, which you need to acknowledge. However, this doesn’t mean that you have to accept it and give up. In fact, experts advise couples who want to keep their relationship strong to have sex regularly (The Telegraph, DailyMail). You have the power to keep the passion burning for years to come and, perhaps, even make it hotter. To achieve this, you’ll need to use a few tricks and even supplementary tools. Those will ensure that both partners are satisfied.

How to Spice Up Sex Life in a Long-Term Marriage: 3 Tips & Tricks

1.     Discuss your expectations and be realistic

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According to Psychology Today, researchers proved that couples who have realistic expectations about their sex life are more satisfied with it. Please note this doesn’t mean that partners need to have similar expectations. The simple fact of spelling them out and acknowledging them is what does the trick.

It’s normal for people to have different levels of sexual desire. It’s also normal to have periods when someone isn’t ‘in the mood’. Regardless of what the reason is, you need to discuss this subject with your partner. And then accept each other’s opinions and desires and acknowledge that both of your views are normal and should be respected.

This is it, you are already halfway to a satisfying sex life.

2.     Use various libido enhancements and other tools to make your sex more satisfying

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Erectile dysfunction and vaginal dryness are both common health issues that can ruin your sex life as you age. So, talk about these issues and use the tools to deal with them. Men should study male enhancement pills review. This will give them a way to fight common erectile issues that come with age. Women should research estrogen treatments for vaginal dryness. However, as those can have severe side effects, they should be used with extreme care. Using lube during sex, on the other hand, is much safer and helps make the act more satisfying for both of you.

There are a great many sex products you can use today to stoke your passion. Look into all of them, from scented aphrodisiac candles to the many creative toys. Think of what can work for you as a couple and don’t be afraid to experiment.

Remember, those things were created with the express purpose to help make your sex life better. There is nothing embarrassing about using them.

3.     Be spontaneous in everything

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One of the main issues with sex in long-term relationships is that couples often ruin the experience for themselves. The worst thing about this is that they do it with the best intentions. This happens because you know your partner well. Therefore, you try to do everything they like most to bring them to that height of ecstasy every time, like clockwork. And that’s what it turns into if you routinely repeat your patterns and actions. No matter how much a person might enjoy it, this will get boring.

Be spontaneous! Try new things in new places and be prepared that not all of them will work out well. The point is to make your sex life richer and more interesting.

Tia, and TipsfromTia.com  is trying to keep you looking good and
feeling good, from the inside out. If you’ve got a problem or a tip email me! Be sure to Like and share on Facebook or Follow on Twitter or Instagram.