About Dysfunctional Relationships
No relationship is perfect, and for any to succeed there must be compromises, empathy and understanding. Each relationship is unique and has its quirks, whether positive or negative, and even the best can fail for reasons like lack of communication, or understanding about what your partner needs. Here are some examples of dysfunctional relationships, and a little bit about how each dynamic works. Hopefully by reading this, you can see your relationship in a new light, or see the warning signs and it becoming dysfunctional, and harmful to all parties involved.
Many people feel that they own their partner, in many ways. This ownership is emotional, and is one way street. The person who is “owned” must constantly pander to the other’s emotions, when their partner has little regard for their own. The relationship often revolved around minimizing the anxiety and stress of the “owner”, which often stems from some kind of insecurity.
In an ideal relationship you should always have empathy and support your partner in all their life goals, to help them achieve what they want to in life. Obviously in reality, losing that person will be difficult. Not “owning” your partner, and having empathy for them, can help you both achieve so many things. Ownership breeds dysfunctionality between partners.
Submission and Dominance
While this can be great to mess around with in the bedroom, is one partner is always dominant or submissive in everyday life, this can cause problems. If one [partner always has dominance over the other, the submissive party will often stop fighting battle, and feel resentful at the predictable outcome. Having too much control isn’t good for the dominant party either, and they could easily abuse this power.
People that work as a team, are able to function in a much healthier way. Coming up with solutions to problems together, means that the outcome will be a much fairer one. Compromising and supporting your partner is the best way to show you care about the, and to foster a less stressful way of settling disputes and making decisions about your life.
Grudges often seem insignificant at the time to either party, but can grow out of control. Harbouring a grudge, whether this is about a past argument, or previous “resolved” issue with the relationship, can come back to haunt you both. It is important to be honest about what is on your mind, even if it seems unimportant at the time. Otherwise this can lead to resentment, and the person with the grudge to feel that something unjust has happened to them, whether this is exaggerated or not.
Dwelling on the past, whether a past relationship or past argument, consider other’s perspectives, for example a male perspective might help, for example a blog like: should I get back with my ex? Talking about issues as they arise, and not burying s the way to stop the issue getting out of hand, and stop resentment.
Communicating and being aware of these problems as they arise, can ensure you have a functional relationship.
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