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How to Make Sex and Motherhood Align

How to Make Sex and Motherhood Align

They say everything changes once you have kids. But have you ever considered the changes to your love life? When you become a mom, your kids become a new and worthwhile sense of joy; they’re now your number one priority and captivate most of your time and energy. But that doesn’t mean your love life, especially physical intimacy, should need to take a back seat. Whether you’re a single mom getting back out on the dating scene, a first-timeparent to a newborn, or even a wife whose marriage has been lacking spark after raising kids, there are solutions to every mom’s differing sexual needs after kids.

Quit guilt-tripping yourself

In the same facet that moms shouldn’t feel guilty about not having sex, moms also shouldn’t be ashamed for desiring sex. After all, sex allows us to create a new life – it’s what made us moms. Not to mention the many proven benefits sex can have on our health and that it can be rewarding for relationships. Maintaining a healthy sex life does not make you a bad mom. It’s all about finding the balance between tending to your child(ren), while also making time to fulfill your own needs.

Don’t let body insecurities stop you

Women undergo many physical changes throughout and after pregnancy, like stretch marks, weight gain, loose skin, and even leaky breasts; all of which can take an emotional toll on our self-confidence making the thought of being intimate again unimaginable. However, you may be surprised by how quickly youfind yourself craving that physical connection again, and since women can ovulate as early as three weeks after childbirth, you’ll want to be prepared if you’re not ready for your family to grow again quite yet. If you’re hesitant to use birth control due to the worry of further weight gain, then fear no more. Most birth controls contain two hormones, a progestin and anestrogen. High levels of estrogen are associated with fluid retention (aka bloating and weight gain). But modern birth control pills nowcontain lower doses of estrogen and progestin, debunking the idea that birth control and weight gain are one and the same, so choosing the best birth control for you is that much easier.

Be creative and flexible

Another reason sex doesn’t always transpire after children is the concept that parenting is a 24/7 job. But like any other job, we all deserve a break at some point. A comfortable way to transition back into having a sex life is to plan a night alone with your partner by dropping the kids off at grandma or grandpa’s house for a night. Your mind can relax knowing that your little ones are in the trusted hands of a loved one. If you don’t have the luxury of a relative or babysitter, don’t give into the notion that you can’t ‘get it on’ just because the kids are home. Forgo your former expectations of sex and fit it in around your time. Have some ‘sexy time’ after the kids goto bed or before they wake up. Make use of nap times or even hop in the shower together for a steamy, intimate moment alone. Just make sure to lock the door!

Becoming a mom means learning new ways to adapt to everything you once did before children, including sex. Women may not have the same sex life they did before kids, but it’s possible that sex after children can be even better as it can teach women to love their natural body, and allow for more opportunities for spontaneity and rekindling romance.

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Postpartum Project

Postpartum Project

New mothers can suffer from depression during or after their pregnancy. Research shows 20 percent of women experience some form of depression or anxiety; however the severity differs from case to case. In fact, one in seven women experience a more severe form of hopelessness called Postpartum Depression (PPD). Women who experience PPD in their first pregnancy are more likely to experience it again in their next one as well. There are a variety of different treatment methods, but massage therapy has been proven to relieve physical discomfort and ailments of depression.

There are several symptoms of PPD which usually emerge within four weeks after childbirth. Some symptoms include panic attacks, guilt at not being to measure up to perceived standards, uncontrollable thoughts that worsen their anxieties and insomnia. PPD can also make a mother fear being alone with the newborn and have repeated thoughts to hurt the baby or self harm. PPD can hamper a mother’s ability to bond with her newborn or care for them properly. This can cause the child’s emotional and mental health to be negatively affected as well as pose a threat to their physical health during infancy.

Massage therapy can relieve physical discomfort and help boost mental health. In fact, one study showed massage therapy could reduce cortisol, the stress hormone, by 31 percent. A 2010 analysis of clinical trials noted that consistent massage therapy can help to lessen the effects of depression. Massage therapy can be combined with other treatments such as psychotherapy, estrogen therapy and home nurse visits to decrease PPD symptoms. Mothers can also attend a class to learn how to massage their infants to create a stronger bond with their baby.

A recent study followed a group of pregnant women during a 12 week period. They participated in massages and short bi weekly yoga sessions. They stated they had decreased back and leg pain, anxiety and feelings of depression. Researches noticed a drop in cortisol levels, excessive fetal activity and premature birth rates.

While massage therapy has been noted to boost the immune system, ease asthma symptoms and ease pain, we now know it can be help mothers who are suffering from PPD. Anyone can be affected, so understand the symptoms and be available to help new mothers to find appropriate treatment.

For more information on how massage therapy can help women with PPD, check out this resource from the Pacific College of Oriental Medicine:

 

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Easy Ways To Boost Your Confidence After Having A Baby

Easy Ways To Boost Your Confidence After Having A Baby

For a lot of women, they lose confidence after having a baby. After all, their body changes dramatically during pregnancy and after giving birth. And it can make them feel less confident when they are out and about. For some women, it can affect their relationship too as they feel less confident around their partner. However, it’s time to make a change. In fact, here are some easy ways to boost your confidence after having a baby.

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Spend time with the people who love you

It’s easy to feel low after having a baby. After all, most women have some form of the baby blues, and part of this can be about how much their body has changed. But if you want to boost your confidence, you should spend some time with the people who love you. After all, they can reassure you that you look fantastic. And they will be full of compliments which you need after giving birth. In fact, you might want to find a trusted friend or family member to look after your baby while you go out with your partner. After all, a date night with your beau can boost your confidence and ensure you feel fantastic. They are bound to shower you with love, and it can help you to feel like your old self!

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Embrace your new body

It can be hard to see all the changes to your body after giving birth. And as much as you can opt to have surgery like breast augmentation to help you love your body again, it can be easier to just try and embrace your new body. After all, you should be proud of the achievements your body has made. It has carried a fantastic little human that you have now welcomed to the world. To help you embrace your new body, it’s a good idea to go and get a new wardrobe. After all, investing in clothes that fit your body well can make all the difference, especially if you are struggling to fit into all of your pre-baby clothes. Therefore, get new clothes which ensure you look fantastic. And you might even want to opt to get a new haircut and get your makeup done. It will help you to feel more confident, and you will be much happier when you look in the mirror.

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Speak with other moms

When you are inside all day with your baby, it’s easy for your confidence to be knocked. After all, you can feel low about all the changes that are occurring in your life. But to help you boost your confidence, you should go speak with other new moms. After all, they are trying to adjust to the changes too. And having someone else who is going through the same thing can give you a boost to your confidence. You could also talk to some other moms who have a one or two-year-old. After all, they will have been through this and can speak to you about how to get through it and boost your confidence. Attending a baby group will ensure you meet new mommy friends.

And remember you can always diet and exercise in months to come, but for now, it’s a good idea to try and accept your new body. And once you have accepted these changes, you will boost your confidence!

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Struggling To Feel Like Yourself As a New Mom? Try These Ideas

Struggling To Feel Like Yourself As a New Mom? Try These Ideas

When you become a mom, it is such a whirlwind and mixture of feelings. For a while, your body can feel completely different, and if you are nursing, can feel like it isn’t even just your own. It can be hard to feel sexy again as you can look and feel different from how you did before.

To start with, sleep can be more important. So when the baby takes a nap, you should too. But as they get a little older, it can be a good idea to use that time to do something for yourself. Getting out of a rut of just putting your sweats on each day can make a massive difference to how you feel. But if this is you that is being described, then there are some other things that you could try, to help you feel more like yourself again. Here are a few ideas for you.

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Get Ready Every Day

It can sound a bit silly, as you will be waking up each day and getting on with things. But when you just stay in pajamas or sweats, they can make you feel worse about yourself. They are unflattering, and if you’re feeling larger after having a baby, it can make that seem worse. So get yourself showered and dressed every day. Even if you plan to be at home all day, you’ll feel much better when you’re showered and ready.

Make Changes

It can take time for stomachs to shrink back down to their normal size. So if you are feeling a little depressed about the weight you have to lose, then it is a good idea to make some physical changes to yourself. The weight will come off, but it won’t happen in one afternoon. But a haircut or color can. The same goes for a new piercing for example. You could even consider something like a tummy tuck if your baby is a bit older now and you are still not back to feeling like yourself. You could visit DavidHalpernMD.com for more information on tummy tucks, for example. It could help you to get back into your pre-pregnancy clothes and make the world of difference to how you feel. Just make sure that you are doing it for the right reasons, though.

Try Makeup

If you weren’t much of a makeup girl before having a baby, then this probably won’t help. But if you were, then part of the getting ready is getting back into your normal routine of putting makeup on. There are some great ‘mom hacks’ that you can find online, like modernmom.com/beauty-hacks-111623.html, for instance. There are lots of quick ways to get yourself ready, as well as learning to do pretty much everything with one hand now!

The bottom line is that you won’t feel like you do forever. There are things that you can do to help yourself feel like you did before. Just take it at your own pace, though, as you have a precious little bundle to care for first.

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Get Beauty Sleep Not Baby Sleep!

Get Beauty Sleep Not Baby Sleep!

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Ask any new mom, and I’m sure they will tell you exactly what it is like to try and get a proper good night’s sleep when there is a new-born baby in the house. And they will all say that it is pretty much impossible! One thing is for certain when you are blessed with a baby you definitely won’t be blessed with sleep. But, you will be happy to hear that having a baby doesn’t necessarily mean giving up sleep for good. Here are some brilliant tips to help you turn that baby sleep into beauty sleep!

Lie Down

Even if you don’t feel tired, it is important to rest while your baby is having a nap or while someone else is occupying your child. Even if you don’t feel particularly tired, you will find that simply lying and relaxing for an hour or so can be very rejuvenating and restorative. It doesn’t matter if you don’t even feel like closing your eyes. You will feel the benefits that come with simply lying flat and taking all the strain off your feet.

Don’t Use Coffee

When you wake up very early after little sleep, you might want to brew up a large pot of coffee to help you get through the day. However, this can be very counterproductive indeed. Sure, all the caffeine in the coffee can help you stay wide awake when you need to, but it will also make it very difficult to fall asleep and nap when you are able to. So try not to use coffee or other caffeinated drinks to keep you going. Instead, stick to a natural alternative, such as herbal teas.

Create A Comfortable Sleep Environment

If your bedroom is a great sleep environment, you will find it much easier and quicker to nod off at night. So make sure your bed is super comfy and has the ideal pillows and mattress for your needs, which can be found at Best Beds Boutique and other bedding stores. Make sure there is nothing to distract you in your bedroom either, like TV and computer screens. You will also find that blackout blinds are a great way to sleep through light nights.

Pump Breast Milk

The main reason why new moms end up getting up through the night so often is that their baby needs feeding. Unfortunately, dads don’t produce their own breast milk, so it has to be the mom who always gets up. But there is a way around this, ladies! You just need to start pumping your own breast milk and storing it in sterilized bottles. That way, your partner can see to the nightly feeds while you get some quality shuteye for once!

No one said it was going to be easy raising a baby. And no one said that you would get through it with plenty of energy! But, hopefully, all of these great tips will help you get a few extra hours of sleep each night so that you feel a little more refreshed each day.

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