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Estate Planning: What You Need To Know

Estate Planning: What You Need To Know

 

Smart people who like to think of the future look to secure estate planning. Estate planning is very complicated, and not everyone understands everything about it. In this article, we’ll talk about what estate planning is and everything else you need to know about it.

 

What is Estate Planning?

 

Estate planning is the process of making sure that your final wishes are honored, particularly wishes about your properties and health care. It also ensures that your loved ones are properly provided for in case of your death.

 

Planning an estate will include what’s going to happen to all of your assets and property such as:

 

  • Bank accounts
  • Life and healthcare insurance policies
  • Personal properties like artworks, cars, furniture, household goods, jewelry, etc.
  • Real estate
  • Stocks and businesses

 

Estate planning is for everyone but only a few people are able to utilize it because most people don’t really know much about it. Most people think that estate planning is only for the rich.

Important Reasons Why You Need To Plan Your Estate

 

Here are the most important reasons why you want to have estate planning.

 

  1. Prevents your relevant assets from going to unintended beneficiaries.

The main benefit of estate planning is to have designated heirs or beneficiaries receive your valuable assets when the time comes and you are gone.

 

  • Without estate planning, the court will decide what happens to your assets. This could be a very long and ugly process, and your assets could go to the wrong beneficiaries.
  • The court has no way of knowing which of your beneficiaries should be responsible for your personal properties or who is entitled to your financial assets.
  • The court will also not automatically rule out that your spouse will get all of your assets.

 

 

  • Protects your children.

 

No one wants to die young, but if you’re a parent of very young children, you must think ahead for the sake of their future. To do that, you need to get an estate plan so you can protect and prepare your family in case of your sudden death.

 

  • You can use the will portion of an estate plan to ensure that your children are taken care of in the way that you want. You can also name people who you want to look after your children in case both parents die before the children turn 18.
  • Without a will like this, the court will again decide and determine who will be responsible for your children if both parents die.

 

 

  • Prevents your beneficiaries or heir from overpaying taxes.

 

Estate planning is all about protecting and ensuring the welfare of your loved ones in case you die. An estate plan will protect your loved ones from paying big tax hits.

 

  • Estate planning also aims to reduce estate taxes. The process aims to transfer your assets to your heirs by reducing the estate taxes as much as possible.
  • An estate plan can help couples reduce or get rid of all their federal estate taxes or state inheritance taxes.

 

Without an estate plan, your heirs could owe a lot of taxes.

 

 

  • Prevents family mess when you die.

 

There a lot of families who wind up in serious quarrels when one family member with money and lots of property dies. There might be one sibling who thinks that he or she deserves more than others, or one sibling who thinks that he/she should be in charge of the finances and your valuable assets even though he’s made a lot of financial mistakes in the past. Such messes can get very ugly and may end up in court with siblings fighting against each other. An estate plan could prevent this from happening.

 

  • An estate plan will allow you to choose who will be in charge of your finances and your other assets if you die or become mentally incapacitated.
  • This will ensure that your family may avoid fighting against each other and ensure that all of your assets are handled in the manner that you want.

 

Prepare for the Unexpected with Estate Planning

 

As we continue to live our lives, there comes a time that we forget to think about our future. We are so focused on living in the moment, that we no longer think of what’s going to happen later on. Although it is not entirely wrong to live in the moment, it is always wise to think about the future.

 

Estate planning can help you prepare for the unexpected. It is what you will need to do to protect your assets and your loved ones when you are no longer able to do so. Without an estate plan, your beneficiaries could end up fighting against each other. A lawyer such as ones here can help you understand how you can ensure asset protection and other relevant aspects of your estate.

 

On top of that, your heirs will be facing massive tax payments to accomplish, and the court could take over your assets and decide how your assets are distributed, and who gets it.

 

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Kiren Manning

Kiren is a estate law writer who enjoys writing about subject in relation to real estate and law. He has written for a few blogs in the past, and enjoys sharing his knowledge with those who enjoy reading. In his spare time he enjoys spending quality time with those he loves.

How To Make A Life With A Disability A Positive One

How To Make A Life With A Disability A Positive One

 

Just because you have a disability, it doesn’t mean that you are not allowed to be happy and to live life more positively. You may struggle with adjusting and adapting to your disability, but it doesn’t mean you are going to continue doing that for the rest of your life.

 

You can still be happier than you were before and have the time of your life despite a disability by following the tips below.

 

Let Go of All Your Regrets

 

While it’s true that some people became disabled because of an accident that may have been avoided, living day in and day out with regret will not help you in the long run.

 

It will only make you more depressed and disappointed with yourself. Living with regret can also make you feel unhappy and socially distant. Thinking about your regrets is a waste of time because what happened to you can never be undone.

 

At some point, you have to stop blaming yourself for what happened to you. Because if you don’t, you’ll never be able to live your life normally after your disability.

 

You have to accept your disability and get rid of all your regrets and anger towards any person who caused the accident because it is the best thing to do. Letting go of your regrets maybe a hard thing to do but it is the only way for you to be happy and enjoy life again.

 

Surround Yourself with Positive-Minded People

 

You should surround yourself with positive-minded people every day. Surround yourself with people who support you and genuinely care for you. Be around people who can help you find real happiness despite your disability.

 

You must avoid spending time with people who can bring you down or spread their negative emotions. You have to cut those negative people out your life.

 

Do your best to find positive-minded and happy people who are hoping for your happiness and who look after your best interests. These people are usually happy with their lives, too, so they should not be too hard to find.

 

Be As Independent As You Can

It’s hard to become independent if you have a disability. You always find yourself relying on others, especially if you need something.

 

Being too dependent on other people’s help is a bad thing. You have to stop letting others do things for you and start doing it on your own. Having to rely on other people’s help can make you lazy and can, sometimes, suck the happiness out of you.

 

Instead, try to start doing simple things on your own and see them through until the end. Keep in mind that doing things on your own can make you happy and think more positively about yourself.

 

Avoid Living Up to Other People’s Expectations

 

Even without a disability, it’s really hard to live up to other people’s expectations. How much more if you happen to have a disability?

 

If you have a disability, most people will not expect anything too much from you. They believe that your capabilities are now limited because of your injury. Don’t let their expectations or anything they say against you get into your head. If you let these things get into your head, you may start to think poorly of yourself because of your disability.

 

You want to be who you want to be despite your disability, and no one has the right to stop you from what you want to become.

 

Get in Touch with Your Sexual Life

 

Denying yourself intimate pleasures is one of the worst things to do especially if you have a disability.

 

Being sexually active is also important in making you happy and think more positively about yourself despite a disability. It may be hard to find a partner who is willing to accept you and your disability, but you need this to make your life complete. If you can’t find a partner, you can also try to be intimate with yourself.

 

Keep in mind that no matter what happens to you, you must not forget about your sexual life. Because if you don’t, you also deny yourself the ability to become fully complete.

 

Life Revolves Around Living, Not Your Disability

 

Living with a disability is certainly tough. But you need to keep in mind that life revolves around living and not around your disability. If your thoughts continue to linger on your disability and you always think of regret, you will never be happy again.

 

But if you manage to stomp out your regrets and accept your disability, you’ll soon figure out that there is still more for you to do and that your life still has a purpose. You should look beyond your disability so you can appreciate the life you have now. If you think it about it carefully, you are still fortunate because you are still alive and that is what matters the most. And to further turn your life into a positive one despite your insurance provider stalling the individual disability insurance claim that you filed a long time ago, you may contact any of the lawyers in this site who are ready to assist you.

 

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Andrew is a passionate writer, writing about disabilities and the law. He has written about many subjects aimed to help those who have questions unanswered. In his spare time he enjoys working on volunteering for those less fortunate.

 

Take Charge of Your Health: Get More Sleep

By Guest Blogger, Sarah C.,

Take Charge of Your Health: Get More Sleep

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When it comes to getting healthy we hear an awful lot about exercise regimes and fad diets. What we don’t hear quite as much about is sleep. Why is that? Maybe it’s because sleep is something you can do for free!

 

Obviously diet and exercise are important but the lack of attention paid to sleep is surprising considering how vital a role it plays in both our physical and mental health.

 

What’s more, how well we sleep also plays a huge part in our capacity for exercise and our ability to maintain a healthy diet. So, while those two might be the pillars of a healthy life, good sleep is the foundation on which they stand.

 

Read on below to discover just how important sleep is for your health and why you should spend more time thinking about it…

 

Boost to the immune system

 

Our bodies are amazing things, while we lie asleep at night they get busy and go to work repairing themselves from the hardships of the day. If our sleep is broken these processes are obviously disrupted and don’t function nearly as well. That in a nutshell is why we feel bad if we don’t get sufficient sleep.

 

One very important process that takes place while we sleep is the production of cytokines, also known as the things that bravely fight off bacteria and viruses. These little guys are the cornerstone of our immune system.

 

If we’re sleep-deprived our immune system becomes impaired, meaning we are less able to fight off infection and less able to bounce back once we become infected. The result is more colds, more flu and more sick days to get over them. Not fun!

 

The heart of the matter

 

Not only does sleep improve your resistance to viruses such flu and colds, it also reduces your risk of being afflicted by a whole host of more serious conditions. Chief amongst these are strokes, heart disease and heart attacks.

 

When it comes to sleep and heart health the exact mechanisms at play aren’t exactly known. One theory simply relates to wear and tear, when we sleep our blood pressure drops and our heart has to do less work. If we sleep less, our heart doesn’t get this break.

 

This means two people of the very same age may have hearts who have done considerably different amounts of work, simply due to a difference in sleep patterns.

 

Has this info got you clutching at your chest in surprise? Well, for advice on how to get a handle on your own sleep patterns why not turn to those in the know, head on over to the Sleep Advisor for specialist advice.

 

Improves weight loss

 

So you’ve been up every morning jogging and you’ve been knocking back those disgusting wheatgrass smoothies but still your waistline hasn’t budged. Why is this? Well, it could be because you’re not getting enough shuteye.

 

Firstly, when we are sleepy we have reduced willpower, meaning we are far more likely to hit the candy jar than when we’ve slept well.

 

Secondly, even if you’ve the willpower to resist temptation, not getting enough sleep will still impact your weight. Not fair I know!

 

Researchers at Chicago University have discovered that our bodies actually process food less efficiently when tired. Apparently when sleep-deprived our fat cells suffer from a condition called ‘metabolic grogginess’. Who knew?

 

Without getting too deep into technicalities, when tired our fat cells are unable to correctly respond to the hormone insulin. Insulin controls how fatty acids and lipids get used and stored. When tired it seems our bodies end up storing more fat than it should.

 

What’s more, metabolic grogginess can lead to fat being stored in the wrong places, such as the tissue in our liver. The result of this can be diabetes. Yikes!

 

So, keep up the jogs and keep knocking back those ‘tasty’ green leaf drinks by all means. But also add a couple of extra hours in bed to your regime and you’ll soon be dropping a few notches on your belt.

 

A brighter tomorrow

 

Sleep isn’t just good for our physical health it’s also strongly linked to our mental health. Such is the link in fact, it’s been reported that insomniacs are five times more likely to suffer from depression as well-rested individuals.

 

Once again the exact reasons for the link between sleep and mental health aren’t completely understood. What we do know is that while we sleep our body attempts to regulate the levels of stress hormones in our system. If this process is constantly interrupted it stands to reasons that it will be less successful, resulting in imbalances and with them a less balanced emotional outlook.

 

There you have it – four reasons why sleep is essential for your health. Who knew that lying in bed for a few more hours could be so good for you? Nighty night!

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Turning Your New House into a New Home

Turning Your New House into a New Home

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There have been a number of sociological and psychological studies that link having a tidy home with a tidy mind; indeed, it is now scientifically proven that a cluttered house can contribute to a cluttered mind.

 

Yet, this isn’t limited to physical clutter.

 

There’s a well known concept within psychology that niggling ‘incomplete’ tasks cause significant stress, as an example there might be a number of jobs within your home that you keep putting off; whether that’s to dig out a certain weed, repair broken glass, or retile the bathroom.  The challenge, of course is that when moving into a new house, there can be such a large list of niggling ‘incomplete’ tasks that you can feel completely overwhelmed.

 

Unfortunately, when we have a number of incomplete tasks our brain feels stress, even if they are tiny things, and it ultimately lowers our self esteem because we feel like we are not keeping on top of things.  When we have a long to-do list, particularly when it comes to tasks around the house, it can feel overwhelming and somewhat stifling, which is why it’s a great idea to keep that list small and tick things off as often as possible.

 

Now, when it comes to buying a new home this list can feel endless – particularly if you’re buying a home in need of some renovation.

 

The trick here is to prioritise tasks according to their significance and to chunk tasks together – so that your to-do list is much smaller; as an example, consider grouping all minor garden tasks together such as weeding, painting the fence, and so on.  You will then end up with a to-do list that is chunked into a handful  of categories that each have a handful of tasks to complete.

 

There are a variety of apps, such as wunderlist that can help you get organised in this way, and the greatest thing from a psychological perspective is that with these apps you can tick items off and then look back at all the completed items which is great for your self-esteem.

 

Now, in terms of buying a new home it’s often agreed that there’s a huge difference between buying a house and buying a home.

 

A house is a physical commodity that can simply be purchased, whereas a home is something you must create…. Home is a feeling and a sense of belonging that transcends the value of the bricks and mortar holding up the roof over your head.

 

Home could be summed up as a sensation of peace… it can be a feeling of relief, such as when you pull into the driveway after a long trip and rest your weary head on your pillow… a feeling of comfort… or even a feeling of focus.  Home means different things to different people, but your sense of home is something that must be created.

 

If your home is a disorganised mess you’re unlikely to be able to create the sense of serenity and harmony you would like to experience as it’s not going to exude the emotional feeling of warmth, stability and peace that most people crave from their home.

 

One of the greatest tips with regard to turning your new house into a home is the power of taking immediate action and building momentum.  Think of how much effort and fuel it takes to launch an airplane into the sky, yet once it has got momentum, it can cruise along with significantly less effort.  The underlying principle within the following three tips, therefore, is to take immediate action and build positive momentum.

 

  1. MAKE YOUR MARK

It’s important that your house feels like it belongs to you.  There’s a strong chance your new house will have remnants of the previous owners tastes and preferences in terms of its style.  The house might be stripped back to the basics, but there’s still likely to be a feeling of it belonging to someone else.  This is why you need to make your mark.  Similar to how a dog will mark his territory, you need to mark your territory in your new home in order to feel a secure sense of belonging.  There are several little things you can do to make your mark and turn your house into a home.

 

  1. PUT OUT PERSONAL ITEMS

Everyone has certain items they feel a strong emotional connection with and attachment to; indeed, just like a child with a teddy bear, there’s often a few pieces of furniture that just feel like home… whether that’s an old coffee table you’ve had for many years or a painting that’s been in your family for generations.  Whilst it’s important you don’t clutter your new home in the first few weeks, whilst you unpack, it can be a nice symbolic gesture to put out a few photographs that allow you to immediately start feeling more at home in your space.

 

Artwork is another great place to start, as wall hangings aren’t going to get in the way of your unpacking and instantly brighten up the space.  Mirrors are obviously fragile, and want to be wrapped with care, but when they are safely hung on the walls, you no longer have to worry about smashing them and getting seven years of bad luck.

 

  1. CLEANSE THE SPACE

In addition to the rational scientific need to clean in order to kill germs, the emotional aspect of cleaning your new home is a powerful emotional process that essentially cleanses the old and welcomes the new.  There are many emotional benefits of cleaning your new home and cleansing your space – the major benefit is that you will have the chance to connect with your new home and feel united with the space… and the more you energetically feel you are nurturing your new home, the more you are likely to feel nurtured by your new home in return.

 

Hopefully, these three principles put you in good stead to turn your new house into a happy home.

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5 Things that Put a Huge Strain on Your Relationship

5 Things that Put a Huge Strain on Your Relationship

Long-term relationships are hard work. When we’re young, we dream of finding our soul mate, settling down and living happily ever after; we don’t think about the work that goes into making a relationship work. But, it does take effort, and it’s important to realize this so that you don’t just give up at the first sign of trouble. Even the happiest of marriages have the occasional blip; it’s how you come through them that makes you perfect for each other. What makes a relationship work is different for all of us, but there are a few things that almost universally put a strain on them. That’s not to say that these things should be avoided, just that you should be prepared and give your relationship more time and attention when it needs it.

 

The Internet

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This is a huge change that modern relationships are facing. Our parents and grandparents either spent time together, or they didn’t. In today’s society, we spend time together, sat next to each other in fact, giving our phones and social media feeds all of our attention. We sit together, sharing our day with strangers online, barely communicating at all.

 

Social media, the internet and smartphones are fantastic tools. But, when you start giving them more attention that you give the people in your home, it’s time to take a step back. Leave your phones in other rooms occasionally and give each other your full attention.

 

Moving to A New House

 

Moving to a new house is tough. It takes a lot of time, effort and hard work, and your relationship can easily get neglected, especially if you don’t 100% agree on your new home or your reasons for moving. Try to make sure you are on the same page, talk everything through, be honest with each other and use a removalist to make sure the move itself is as easy and stress-free as possible.

 

Vacations

 

Vacations should be a fantastic stress-free time. In reality, they’re often not. We put huge amounts of pressure on ourselves and each other to have a great time, which can cause arguments and friction. Instead, be spontaneous, and relax. Just enjoy being together away from home.

 

Money

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Money is one of the leading causes of arguments in most marriages. We worry about it, we argue about it, we disagree on what to do with it, and if we haven’t got enough of it, we lay blame with each other. It’s important to start as you mean to go on with money. Always be honest and talk to your partner about what’s going on and never rush into a financial decision without consulting them first, even if it’s your money.

 

Family

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Family is another cause of strain in relationships. If you get on with each other’s family and enjoy spending equal time with both sides, then you should count yourself lucky. For many of us, it’s a constant battle. Learn to compromise, and to bite your lip for the good of your relationship.

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It’s Time You Started To Take Better Care Of Yourself

It’s Time You Started To Take Better Care Of Yourself

 

Lifestyle

 

The way we live is what overall affects how our body feels and changes, and it’s important that we protect it in our lifestyle. From what you eat to how much you move around in a day is what your body has to go off of, and surprisingly this can have a huge impact on your health. If you’re leading an unhealthy lifestyle you may really start to feel it physically, and you’re a lot more likely to fall victim to serious health issues. Typically, when it comes to starting the new year, people try to make a new year’s resolution to work on their diet or start up a new exercise plan. It’s hard to stick to, but you have to be determined!

 

Checkups

 

If you don’t often see a doctor, it might be worth booking yourself in for a quick checkup to make sure everything is fine. That’s not to say that you should expect bad news, but there’s no harm in making sure! Even if you do find out there’s bad news, the sooner you find out about it, the more chance you have of getting the best result. You might find yourself needing specific drugs to help out with any conditions you have, which can be pretty expensive if insurance does not cover it! You should check out ePharmacies to help you find the best deal out there on the market. You never know how much you could save, and when it comes to an essential purchase like this; you want to make sure that your payments are going to stretch!

 

Bad habits

 

Bad habits are often the worst causes of damage to our bodies. It’s quite common to see people with smoking addictions, and they bring such substantial health risks to themselves and people around them. Managing to quit this addiction doesn’t only help save your body from potential illnesses, but you’re also going to be saving yourself significant amounts of money. It’s hard to give up these addictions, but there are many services and treatments you can invest in to help you quit. The problem with most people’s addictions is, they don’t usually want to give them up, but it can be made a lot easier if you take the available treatments. For example, with the latest e-cigarettes, you don’t really have to give up smoking in a sense, but instead, you can lower your chemical intake significantly by using those instead. Smoking isn’t the only habit that people tend to get addicted to, alcohol is quite a common problem these days, too. Which again, not only compromises your health but leaves a massive hole in your wallet.

 

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The sooner you start to take care of your body, the higher the chance you have at a healthier future. The last thing anyone wants is to be given some bad news based on some silly compromise on their health, like smoking or a lack of exercise. It seems like fun at the time, but it’s something that you would seriously regret when the time comes.

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Find Motivation in Minutes

By Celebrity Guest, Patrick Manifold, Professional Basketball Player and Life Coach

Find Motivation in Minutes

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My biggest motivation for me personally is my goals, which together form the vision of the man I want to become. That guy is easily my biggest motivation! I truly love my life now… but his life looks absolutely incredible! So every single day that vision motivates me and inspires me to keep putting in the work I need to in order to make that vision a reality.

In the past I struggled with being happy along the way, and for some silly reason I only allowed myself to be truly happy when I had achieved something amazing, which of course was only sporadically, setting myself up for months of unhappiness. But over the last four or five years I have really made the conscious decision to enjoy every step along the way.

It’s true what they say, it is as much about the journey as it is the destination. So for anyone out there like me who is super ambitious, please remember that you can allow yourself to be happy every single day, just by making the conscious decision to do so.

During a recent interview I was asked why so many people are not motivated in life. I stated that the reason so many people are unmotivated about life is because they don’t have anything in their lives to be motivated about. If you don’t have goals, or things you want to do or achieve, or things that you truly love doing, then there is no way you are going to be jumping out of bed excited about life to get to work every day.

As you probably know I am the founder of a full-service personal development called ‘Manifold Motivation’ and as our name suggests, we specialize in motivation. I think that motivation is both an art and a science, or a ‘why’ and a ‘how’ as I often describe it.

The reason one thing motivates some and not others has to do with our unique emotional triggers. When I am working with a client who has ambition to do something, but can’t seem to find the motivation, I use certain techniques to find out what really matters to them. I ask them questions that delve deeper and deeper into their ‘why’. Once I have done this and got some results it is far easier for that person to make progress towards their goals, as they’re no longer battling against feeling unmotivated. Instead they can focus all their energy on the important tasks at hand.

The next step is that after you have figured out your ‘why’, you then have to find your ‘how’. This will act as your ‘motivational hacks’ to jump start you when you’re feeling lazy or uninspired. For me, I have lots of hacks for various areas of my life, and they are all equally important to my productivity. You have to find your own ‘how’, and your own ‘hacks’, but only you have the keys to unlocking what those are.

So if I could offer any advice to someone struggling with motivation I would tell them that firstly, they have to find a ‘why’ that truly drives them and inspires them to take action. And secondly, I would tell them to work to find different hacks they can use that they know will motivate them in minutes. You can either do these things yourself, or you can hire someone to help you get there faster, but regardless of the route you take, make sure you do something, because there is a door that leads to all the places you have ever dreamed of; but the key to unlocking that door is your motivation.

So you see, the secret to motivation is having a powerful ‘why’ and an intelligent ‘how’. These two elements form the art and science of human motivation, and that’s the quickest way to get you from you are to where you want to be.

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Feeling Lonely? Get Out There and Do Stuff!

Feeling Lonely? Get Out There and Do Stuff!

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Loneliness can be really difficult to contend with. Not only are you utterly miserable on your own, but, persuading yourself to make the effort to go out and meet up with people gets harder and harder as your loneliness persists. If you aren’t careful, you can quickly get into a cycle where you don’t see people, get frustrated about not seeing people and, as a consequence, don’t feel like seeing people.

 

While your symptoms are totally understandable, and loneliness is becoming something of a  21st century plague, you need to burst your bubble and get out there. Making contact with people when you are low is tough, but if you start making a little more effort each day, your symptoms will be alleviated and you will be so much happier. The key is to start small.

Go Out for a Coffee

Combating loneliness is about taking the initiative to get out of your home and break the cycle. Now going out to get coffee really isn’t going to break the bank, but it is going to get your outside of your home and into contact with other people. To begin with, you might want to rush in and straight out again, but give yourself some more time. Take a book an sit at a table if like. Have a chat with the barista about the type of coffee or what a lovely day it is. Smile at someone when you catch their eye and don’t be afraid to make conversation.

Talking to Strangers

In spite of what your mom said when you were a kid, talking to strangers is actually a good thing. It gives you an opportunity to connect with someone without having to follow up later on. This means that even if the worst does happen and you make a fool of yourself, you will see that there are no real consequences. In fact, once you are a little more comfortable making conversation, you should try asking a stranger something really stupid just to prove to yourself that whatever happens, even if someone thinks you’re weird, it’s not the end of the world.

Be Proactive

Some hibernation watching films and hiding under a rug is completely normal and there is a difference between loneliness and solitude that is important to note. However, when you are hibernating by habit, it’s time to get out there and do something different.

 

The final part of conquering your loneliness: making plans and then sticking to them. While you are lonely, it is easy to make plans and then flake out later on. However, if you are more proactive and stick to your plans, you will find that your relationships improve and your support network tightens up. Have a look on TicketOffices for some events you could ask friends to attend with you and make some plans to go.

 

Loneliness is difficult to defeat, but with a little determination and a lot of small steps, you will work your way to back to having an amazing group of friends and a wonderful life. Get out there – you know you can do it.

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