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Time to See a Psychologist: When You Feel Like You’re Growing Apart

Time to See a Psychologist: When You Feel Like You’re Growing Apart


Relationships are about growth. You meet, fall in love, and start a life together. It takes time a patience to build a lasting relationship. However, even in the strongest of relationships, everyone has moments of getting weary.

The honeymoon phase is over


It’s a fictitious timeframe when couples stop being on their best behaviors and get real. This is usually the time when the first heated augments occur. This is the time when you might realize your partner’s annoying habits like leaving the toilet seat up all the time. This might be the time you decide not to wear the most alluring under-garments all the time.

Some people dread the idea of the honeymoon phase coming to an end, but this is really the time when couples make it or break it. It’s a lot smoother of a transition if you decide to be real with your partner early on in the relationship.

Seven year stretch


Your relationship had withstood some time and before you realize, you’ve made it to your 7th anniversary. The seven year stretch sounds like fake news, but scientific studies have shown this phase is real for humans. It’s been proven that whether in a relationship or single, people go through a transition every seven years. As couples hit seven years together, it’s a good time to recognize the growth you’ve done as an individual and as a couple. This is the time to set new goals, maintain togetherness, and cultivate the areas in yourself, your partner, and the parts of the relationship that need a little extra TLC.

Prevent Falling Apart


There’s no guarantee or magic that is fireproof nowadays. People grow at different rates, and there are plenty of distractions out there to pull you away from your partner. However, making a conscious choice to remain focused in your relationship is key. Self-control is the only thing you need to be concerned with. You can’t control your partner, nor should you want to. Having a partner is having a mate who can be your equal, or the yin to your yang.

You might not see eye to eye on everything like you once did, but compromise has gotten you two far in your relationship. Like people take vitamins to prevent sickness, why not invest in marriage counseling before there’s a major problem? Talking to a qualified psychologist to help you two through simple disagreements could perhaps prevent big problems down the line.

Remember every flower grows at different rates. So don’t give up on your partner if they are growing in a different direction or at a different speed. It’s just a sign for you to get to pruning and watering your relationship. I love the quote by Neil Barringham, ‘The grass is greener where you water it’.

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3 Reasons To Have Counselling Before You Get Married

3 Reasons To Have Counselling Before You Get Married

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Seeing a counsellor before you get married may sound bizarre. Surely if you need to see a counsellor, you shouldn’t be getting wed? After all, counselling is only for couples with problems, right? Actually, you would be surprised by how many people have premarital counselling, and experience many benefits from it. Read on to discover why this is something you should consider:

Prevent divorce – Quite simply, by investing in counselling before you get married, you can reduce the chance of divorce in the future. In fact, it is predicted that counselling lowers the risk of you needing to contact divorce attorneys by roughly 20 per cent. You are more likely to have a happier relationship from the offset, as you will identify your desires, needs, beliefs, values, and fears, and you will learn how to communicate them to your partner. This means you will be able to deal with them in the best manner for your relationship, as you will be prepared.

Effective communication – There is no denying that effective communication is the key to any marriage. A marriage will eventually fall apart when a couple stops talking to one and other and stops caring. An expert counsellor will teach you how to listen and understand the wants and needs of the other person. Keeping an open line of communication and expressing your love and appreciation for the other person is important, yet it is very easy to take someone for granted when you live with them every day.

Face issues – Last but not least, not all couples enter a wedding in sheer bliss. Life doesn’t always work this way, and there may already be some problems you are facing, for example, religious differences. A counsellor may help you if your parents are interfering or if you have differences over what religion to raise your future children. Perhaps you have money issues? Learning about your spouse’s spending habits is imperative before you get married. There are many different issues that couples face, and something may seem like a small matter now, but it could easily turn into a major problem later down the line. This is why it is better to see a counsellor sooner rather than later. Don’t feel embarrassed; a therapist sees several people every day, all with their unique issues, and he or she will be completely objective and empathetic.

 

As you can see, there are a number of benefits to be gained by deciding to see a counsellor prior to getting married. After all, seeing a counsellor is not something you should do when your world is falling apart. Counsellors can help you to enrich your life and prevent any potential problems further down the line.

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