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Holiday Blues

Holiday Blues

 

You might think that only people who spend the holidays alone are susceptible to holiday depression. That’s not the case. Depression doesn’t really care if you’re alone or surrounded by loved ones. Depression and anxiety can hit hard during the holidays. There plenty of factors around this time of year to push your mind to its limits.

First off, it’s cold

Seasonal depression is real! Lack of warmth and sun can cause any flower to wilt. So make sure you get your daily dose of vitamin D through your diet. Also, if the sun is shining, bundle up and get outside for a few minutes. This will help boost your mood.

Spending money

It’s true that some folks love to spend money, but there’s usually a pang of guilt in doing so. Especially, if it was a frivolous purchase. Other people feel a lot of pressure when spending money around the holiday season. Do they have enough money for presents? Is it a good enough present? How can I afford that? For parents, the largest concern is, I want to make sure they have a great Christmas… All of these thoughts put unnecessary pressure on yourself. Anxiety heightens, and that’s when depression can also slip into the party. Take the pressure off. Put a cap on your budget. Ask your kids if they could only have one thing, what would it be? This allows you to find out where their priorities lie. With friends and relatives, suggest a white elephant exchange or a Pollyanna. And do you still feel like you need to get something for everyone? Do a cookie bake or make homemade bath bombs and scrubs. Homemade gifts are always treasured.

Family drama, not made for TV

During holidays, lots of family drama can surface. It May sound too simple, but shake it off. Who cares that aunt so-n-so doesn’t think that’s a proper desert for the holiday dinner or grandparents think you’re in the wrong line of work? If you’re spending the holidays with them, the only answer should be you love them. Love them for who they are, even if you feel they can’t love you for who you are. If you can’t, then you should consider who you are spending your time with. This is the time of year to spend with LOVED ones.

It’s the end of the year and you still haven’t accomplished that

Every year, millions, if not billions, make New Year resolutions for their life. 12 months later, they didn’t accomplish what they set out to do. Take the pressure off yourself and try a five-year plan instead. Having goals is important. But having deadlines can cause anxiety. Give yourself a break. And remember, if it’s part of your destiny, you’ll eventually get there.

Which brings me to my final point, …Therapy

This is the time of year for giving, more than receiving. Therapy comes in many forms. So if depression hits, try volunteering your time. Donate gifts, food or clothing to the less fortunate. Helping others can pull you out of your own depression.

Mental health is important all year round. But there’s certain times throughout the year, the mind can be tested. We miss loved ones or ended-relationships during certain periods of life. Around the holidays, we are reminded this is a time to be spent with loved ones. And it’s alright to miss them, but we must remember to celebrate these times as well. If you can’t shake the blues or you feel them coming on perhaps it’s best to talk with a therapist. Remember, there are people that can help if you need to talk. If you or someone you know is suffering with depression this holiday season, please seek help.

Wishing you and yours a happy and healthy holiday season!

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3 Gestures to Show Your Loved Ones That You Care

3 Gestures to Show Your Loved Ones That You Care

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In life, we frequently preoccupy ourselves with all kinds of considerations, ranging to deep anxieties and hopes for our professional lives, five-year plans for our financial future, or our property portfolio, and maybe writing a bestselling novel somewhere down the line.

 

While there are many significant things that we can choose to preoccupy ourselves with in life, however, our loved ones invariably come first. Life just wouldn’t be worth it without those precious people who we hold dear.

 

Bearing that in mind, it’s important to remember to pause every once in a while — no matter how busy or ambitious you may be — in order to remind your loved ones how much they mean to you.

 

There are certain gestures that can show your loved ones you care. Some of these are ritualised and focus on material goods. For example, you can read this James Allen review to get a sense of the significant role of diamonds in wedding rings.

 

Here are a few more everyday gestures that you can make for the sake of reminding those special people that they’re special to you.

 

Simply make the time to talk and listen to them

 

It’s one of the easiest things in the world to stop what you’re doing and listen to someone else when they’ve got something to say to you, but many of us are so distracted and constantly on the move, that we routinely fail to make time to talk and listen to our loved ones the way we should.

 

Nobody wants to be the parent who brushes their child off when they’re trying to proudly show off their latest drawing, and no one wants to be the distracted spouse who ignores their significant other’s small talk and instead checks up on business emails on their phone.

 

These things happen accidentally, but they do happen, and the effects can be devastating. Make the time to pause, pay attention, listen, and talk with your loved ones.

 

Recommend doing fun things that you know they want to do

 

As human beings, we’re generally inclined to try and push in favour of our own interests. If your significant other wants to watch a particular movie but you don’t want to, you’ll likely write the idea off, for example.

 

While it’s good to stand your own ground and push for your own interests in a relationship, a great way to show that you care can be to recommend doing fun things that you know your loved ones want to do, even if you, yourself, aren’t necessarily crazy about the idea.

 

Be a source of joy and brightness in their lives, especially when times are dark

 

No one is positive or happy all the time, but it’s important to understand that the people you care most about in this world likely look to you for comfort and strength in the times when they feel at their lowest.

 

Simply working on yourself to see the positive in life, to be optimistic and proactive, and to offer words of encouragement when needed, can result in a significant boost to the wellbeing of your loved ones.

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