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Don’t Screw Up Your Next First Date

Don’t Screw Up Your Next First Date

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It doesn’t matter whether your day job is working as a fisherman on Deadliest Catch or as a sherpa on Mount Everest, going on a first date is pretty much as nerve-wracking, heart-pounding a totally terrifying as life can get. Sure, you risked rejection and leapt into the unknown by asking her on a date, but now you need to walk the tightrope of impressing her without coming on too strong.

 

This is where most guys fall flat on their face, walking into the same bear traps as so many gentlemen that came before them, inadvertently turning women off on their pursuit of the one.

 

That’s where we come in. We’ve pulled together a sort of guide to help you avoid making these disastrous mistakes. Sure, some of them may seem a little trivial, while others may seem a little bold but, let’s be real for a second, you don’t get much leeway when it comes to a first date. On paper it’s simple: don’t mess things up. But doing that when you don’t know them yet, that’s the tough part.

 

  1. Show Up On Time.

This whole thing about being ‘fashionably late’ doesn’t work on a first date. Or any date for that matter. All it does is tell the beautiful lady sat waiting for you that she isn’t enough of a priority for you to show up on time, and a time that you probably picked. You only get one shot at a first impression, remember that.

 

  1. Show Up In Style.

You don’t need to land on a rooftop terrace wearing a parachute having just leapt from a passing helicopter, but you do need to show some form of style when you show up. That could mean you head to cleanharleys.com today, pick up the kind of bike Steve McQueen would ride and pull up outside the bar or it could just mean you know how to look good stepping out of the back of an Uber. Whatever it is, know how to show up in style.

 

  1. Listen To Her, Okay.

Don’t get us wrong, she wants to learn more about you. Of course she does. But that doesn’t mean she wants to sit there as you talk at her face, telling her all about your life and giving off the impression you are a narcissist. Instead, show her that you are genuinely interested in her, as this article on manthesis.com explains how to do. Our advice: start off by asking about her job, her ambitions, what made her pick that career and what she wants to accomplish. Letting her know you take her work seriously is what gentlemen do.

 

  1. Take Pride In Your Appearance.

If there is one thing you can guarantee from a girl on a first date it’s that she will come looking her best. She’ll do this because she’ll want you to know she a) takes pride in her appearance and b) is an absolute catch. You need to do the same. Now, you don’t need to spend an hour getting ready and trying on every combination of clothes possible but, like we mentioned above, you need to let her know she’s worth the effort of you looking super-suave.

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Dress to Impress for Any Date That’s Thrown Your Way

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Dress to Impress for Any Date That’s Thrown Your Way

Let’s face it, we all dress to impress. When we go on a first date, we break out the little black dress that’s a tad too little, the expensive jewelry we’ve only worn once in our life, and the sexy black heels that give us painful blisters. We all know what to wear and how to impress our date when he takes us to dinner. But what if he decides to be adventurous and take you somewhere else for your date? Well here are some tips on how to dress to impress in uncharted waters. 

Hiking Up Lover’s Lane

Hiking is a great date idea. It shows that you’re fit, healthy, and smart and lets you get to know each other more intimately. But how do you impress the guy with your fashion as well as your athleticism? You dress sporty, cute, and smart. You don’t want to go out there dressed like Ranger Rick, and you don’t want to be out in your sundress. Instead, opt for something waterproof, cool, and light. Break out the sweats – men dig women in yoga pants and running leggings. Wear something that hugs your curves yet makes you feel comfortable exercising and pair your outfit with either running shoes or cute hiking boots. It’s important to dress accordingly as well as take along a small backpack with necessities. As for hair and makeup, do your hair in a casually sexy ponytail or braid, and go for natural minimalistic make-up. Look like you didn’t try too hard to look that cute.

Shout Your Love from the Top of a Roller Coaster

Amusement parks are a great date idea because you always have something to do and it gets rid of those awkward silences. However, dressing for a theme park date is hard because your outfit must take you from the morning to the night, and through hot temperatures and wet water rides. This is also another date where a dress or skirt simply won’t cut it – unless you plan on flashing everyone on the ride. Your best bet is to go for a casual chic look. Shorts and a tank top, graphic tee, or airy top are perfect for most of the elements you will be going up against at the park. Wear stylish sneakers and avoid anything with any type of heel as you will be doing a lot of walking. Take inspiration from the park and dress to match the theme. When it comes to make-up, be sure to wear SPF moisturizer and a primer because you need your make-up to last all day. Make your eye make-up and mascara as water resistant as possible and wear a lipstick stain to make sure the look lasts all day, especially important on a water ride.

Striking in Love

Most people don’t go bowling anymore. However, it’s not because it’s not fun, but because bowling has turned into an activity geared towards couples. So, what do you wear to bowl a strike in his heart? The key is your top. Wear a nice shirt and bring a stylish jacket if it’s cold outside. You will get hot inside, so make sure you wear something fashionable underneath. It is probably best to wear long pants, because you will be bending down most of the night. But, the most important thing to wear is socks and shoes that are easy to take off. You don’t want those nasty germs on your bare feet, and you also don’t want your date to watch you struggle to take your shoes off. When it comes to jewelry, less is more. Do not wear any rings or bracelets because it will distract your bowling. Instead, wear a simple necklace. When it comes to make-up, you can wear what makes you comfortable but consider the fact that most bowling dates are at night during cosmic bowling hours, so don’t wear anything that will look weird under a black light.

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The Essential Guide To Safe And Healthy Dating

The Essential Guide To Safe And Healthy Dating

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The excitement of the first date should be fun, but all too often we hear horror stories about dates going wrong. We can’t let this put us off dating, though. Most dates are safe and fun if a little bit awkward. If you’re planning a date soon, make sure you follow these top tips to ensure you have a safe and healthy experience and all the fun you want.

Talk on the phone first

If you’re meeting someone from an online dating site, make sure you speak to them on the phone before you meet them in real life. You’ll get a much better impression of their personality that way, and you’re more likely to hear if there’s something a bit weird about them.

Do your homework

At the very least you want to know his full name, his job and have a general idea about where he lives. And while you never have to admit it to him, it’s always worth doing a quick Google search of his name too. A quick look at his LinkedIn will tell you that he is being honest, and a Facebook stalk might reveal some mutual friends, who’ll hopefully be able to vouch for him.

Meet in public places

Just in case there is anything sinister about your date, it’s best to meet him in a public place the first couple of times while you get to know him. If he is worth it, he’ll understand that your safety has to come first. Try coffee shops, bars, restaurants, bowling, or even the park if the weather is good. Just make sure there are other people around, and you can leave easily if you want to. It’s a good idea to meet in the morning or at lunch time because you afternoon plans give a more organic and less awkward means of getting away if you’re just not feeling it.

Tell people where you are

Employ a buddy system, so your friend always knows where you are. Make sure you inform them if you move venue during your date, and give them an approximate time that you’ll be getting home. This just means that if anything untoward happens, someone’s always got your back. They could even come out on your first date with you – double dates tend to be less awkward, and it gives your buddy the chance to get to know your date too.

Take the essentials

You’ll want to have spare cash for a taxi, your bank card in case you get lumbered with the bill, and your mobile phone at the very least. It doesn’t hurt to carry mace too, just in case of an emergency. Making sure you’ve got everything you need means you can get away easily if your date starts to go south.

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Don’t drink too much

It can be tempting to knock the drinks back to loosen your inhibitions and get over the awkwardness on the first date, but it can also inhibit your ability to read a situation. For the first couple of dates, try to avoid drinking much, or even stick to non-drinking activities. You’ll find that you get to know your date more thoroughly when you’re coherent the whole time too.

Don’t leave food or drink unattended

Some people are just plain horrible. While it’s unlikely you’ll meet anyone with an ulterior motive, it’s always best to be as safe (and suspicious) as you can. Leaving a drink or a meal unsupervised could allow someone to slip drugs into them, which could compromise your safety. Finish your food and drink before heading to the restroom during a meal or in a bar – the risk just isn’t worth it.

Don’t give too much away

Early on in your dates, try not to give too much information away about yourself. For example, let them know the area of town in which you live, but not your street address. They can know your profession, but not your place of employment. It just means that if they turn out to be weird and you cut them off, they have no way to contact you or find you.

If you’re worried, leave

Don’t second guess yourself as a judge of character – if someone seems a bit weird to you, or you’re just not enjoying the evening, you are entirely within your rights to leave. Trust your instincts – if they get over-familiar or inappropriate too quickly, or anything that they say leaves you feeling a bit uncomfortable, remember that you know best. And don’t compromise your safety or happiness for the sake of saving some random guy’s feelings. If you’re worried about just walking out, ask the staff to call you a taxi or call a friend to come and meet you.

Give feedback

If you’re dating online and it does go wrong, heaven forbid, make sure you report his profile to the dating site and give them an outline of your concerns. It means that other women will not have to face the same problems as you, so it’s all about looking out for each other.

Practice safe sex

This should go without saying, but it is all to easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment. When you’re at that stage with your date, make sure you’re carrying condoms, as well as him. Don’t let him try to talk you out of safe sex – the risks just aren’t worth it.

Get regular check-ups

Even if you’re super careful, if you’re dating it’s important that you have regular sexual health check-ups, just to be on the safe side. Free std testing is available all over the country, so there’s no excuse not to.

Enjoy yourself

Don’t get too caught up in the end-game, just enjoy the process of dating, getting to know people, and having fun. If you’re too focused on where you’d like to end up, you could miss vital red flags, or just lose out on the enjoyment of it all.

Dating is really fun and doesn’t have to be scary. Just remember to keep your wits about you, your friends on hand, and to take it slowly, and you’ll have a safe and fun time.

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