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Overcoming Addiction: How To Help A Friend In Need

Overcoming Addiction: How To Help A Friend In Need

Addiction is a disease. It is an ailment that only those who have a predisposition to allowing their addictive personalities take charge can fully understand and relate to. It doesn’t matter if the addiction is to food, drugs, alcohol, gambling or extreme exercise, the impact on the addict’s life and the lives of those around them can be profound for all involved. Witnessing a loved one or a friend in the throes of addiction can be heartbreaking, and it can be impossible to know what to do for the best. All you want to do is help, to get your friend back on the right path and enable them to see how worthwhile their life is without the need for their addiction. Take a look at these tips to help you help a friend in need.

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Listen

If your friend is willing to talk, take this as a positive sign. Addicts tend to isolate themselves even from those who they love and care about the most. If your friend is eager to talk to you, even if it is not about anything remotely linked to their addiction, be willing to listen. Be the shoulder that they can cry on, the sounding board to voice their ideas and the impartial person who they can vent their anger at.

It’s vital that your friend understands that you have their best interests at heart. As they become more comfortable talking to you, they may open up about their feelings towards their addiction but be wary of the terminology you use. They may not use the word addiction and may simply refer to their dependency on drugs, alcohol or gambling as a problem. The word ‘addiction’ can be terrifying for an addict making them feel shame, anger, and negative self-worth. Just being there to listen to your friend may be enough in the first instance.

A Need For Understanding

The idea that you can just say to your friend who is an addict that they should ‘look on the bright side’ or that they ‘don’t know how lucky they are’ is oversimplifying the situation and shows your lack of understanding for their addiction. What your friend is going through is acutely traumatic and emotional. Don’t belittle their addiction through the use of platitudes. Your friend may retreat further and be unwilling to address their problems.

Facilitation Is Not The Answer

Your friend may be in the depths of an addictive episode when they come to you for help. Your idea of help is to see them in a rehabilitation program. Their idea of help is $20 to secure their next fix of an illegal substance. Don’t give in, however tempting it may be. Your friend is not the same person as they were before the addiction. Their impulsive craving for their vice has altered their personality to try and manipulate you into giving them what they want. Be the best friend that you can be and say no, however heartbreaking this may be.

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Rehabilitation Is The Answer

Only when you sense that your friend is ready for external help, can rehabilitation be successful. It may be your friend who initiates a conversation with you to seek help. You can investigate which recovery center is the most appropriate for your friend. Think about the programs that they offer, the support they provide and the after care guidance that they will continue to give.

It’s important to realize that the hardest part may not yet have come on their road to recovery. Addicts must confront many demons before embarking on their new sober, addiction free lives. You may need to take a step back and allow them to confront their issues on their own with specialist help. Just make your friend aware that you will be waiting for them when their period of rehabilitation is over.

There may be some blips and relapses along the way. This is normal, but if your friend is still willing to admit their issues with addiction, they can continue on their road to recovery.

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Only when your friend has completed their rehabilitation and is settling into their addiction free life, will they realize the impact that their addiction has had on you. Being a strong and stable figure in your friend’s life while they try to overcome addiction can be one of the most challenging things you ever have to undertake, but if you stick with it, you can help turn your friend’s life around.

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Addiction and Recovery: How Do You Know It’s Time To Seek Help?

Addiction and Recovery: How Do You Know It’s Time To Seek Help?

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Addiction is a serious condition. It occurs when someone either ingests a substance or carries out an activity which directly results in person pleasure. Now, we all engage in activities that create a sense of happiness within ourselves. But addicts don’t know when to call it a day. Someone is an addict if the pursuit of these pleasures begins to interfere with their day to day life. For example, work, family responsibilities and personal relationships. It also becomes a problem when the behaviour is damaging to the individual’s health. Many addicts don’t even realize how destructive their behaviour is. Both personally and interpersonally. Others will simply be in denial and make excuses for their behaviour. Some are open and honest but don’t have any intentions of altering their lifestyle.

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When To Seek Help

If you’re worried that you’re an addict or are concerned on behalf of a partner, relative or friend, then it’s never too early to seek help. As soon as you notice dependence on physical stimulants or problematic self-conduct, it’s time to search for some support and assistance. There are plenty of options. Remember, addiction isn’t necessarily to hard drugs. Common addictions include alcoholism, gambling, smoking, sex and shopping. Don’t forget that addiction to prescription drugs also occurs. If you feel you are having problems when it comes to dependence on prescribed medication, talk to the GP prescribing it to you. There might be alternative options that will have less of a negative influence on your life.

Where To Seek Help

There are plenty of options when it comes to getting help with your addiction. Your GP will be able to advise you on whether you are an addict or not. However, if you’re seeking a specialist, you might like to consider an addiction counselor.  An addiction counselor is a professional individual who will listen to your concerns. They will help you in ways specifically tailored to you as an individual. If you find comfort in numbers, you could attend weekly recovery meetings and sessions. You will meet other people in the same situation as yourself. You’ll be able to provide one another with a strong support network. With other people who are in similar situations to you. If you’d rather not tackle the problem face to face with other people, then there is a seemingly endless number of helplines that deal with issues surrounding addiction.

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Overcoming Denial

It’s often said that the first step on the road to recovery is acceptance. If you are in denial about your addiction, you can’t begin to tackle the real problem. People often can’t be helped unless they want help. You can’t force an adult to seek professional help. Many addicts are embarrassed by themselves and ashamed of their behaviour. But it’s important to acknowledge that addiction isn’t a sign of weakness. It also doesn’t reflect an individual’s morals. You will not be judged for reaching out for a helping hand. Admitting that you need assistance with overcoming your addiction is a brave, strong and bold move. It’s something to be applauded for, not condemned or shunned.

If you are worried about the effects that addiction may be having on your relationship, you may be worrying about other things that might be negative or damaging between you and your partner. Check out our article on common errors couples often make that lead to separation.

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