The Little Things Add Up Regarding Dating Confidence
If you’re reading this, there’s a large chance you’re interested in dating, and dating well. The search for love is not always easy. While it can happen naturally, and help you craft a story of love and beauty, sometimes things aren’t so simple. It takes effort for people to find the love they keep for the most part. If not in situational terms then in how they present themselves. After all, if you’re not giving the best of yourself, how can you expect someone to see the best of you?
Of course, you should be comfortable in your skin more than anything. But, if you really do value confidence when it comes to approaching those you are attracted to on sincere terms, it pays to take care of yourself. Being confident will give you more presence, help you achieve more suitable and worthwhile partners, and generally have more fun while dating! Dating can be turbulent. Sometimes you meet people you might not have wanted to looking back, and sometimes you can go for long periods without meeting anyone suitable. If you have the ability to however, you can develop a keen awareness for how you present yourself, and how your confidence translates to the dating scene.
This article will help you with that, as it’s not always relevant. Of course, these tips should be done for you more than anyone else you might meet in the future, as they’ll develop you into a stellar and well-presented person. Self-confidence redeems itself in how happy you feel within your own skin. Still, sometimes directing that in the pursuit of a potential love or close friend from dating can also be worth your time.
The little things add up regarding dating confidence. Here are just a few to take care of:
Who doesn’t like being smiled at? You’ll notice awfully quickly if the person you meet has an issue smiling with you. This can make you feel on edge, as the whole situation feels weird from a body language perspective. After all, verbal language is only 20% of overall communication. We are fine-tuned to understand and receive signals through body language, expressions, general movement when speaking and how open or closed their presence is to you. Smiling is an undeniable signal that you’re doing something right. This means smiling at the other person (genuinely) can also allow them to pursue certain avenues of dialogue, believe that their joke hit well, or simply feel comfortable in your presence.
Your smile makes you radiant. However, if you have a few aesthetic issues with your teeth, you might be defeating this beauty from the start. Ensuring that your teeth are well maintained and clean will contribute to this, via discerning the services of the best dentist available. It’s not negative to have a little work done if you notice glaring issues, as if your smile is less than it could be, you’ll try not to do it, and this closes off your body language. Simply brushing your teeth and flossing well, on top of paying attention to your breath (like never eating garlic before a date!) are pretty much all the steps you need to take to have a wonderful and beautiful smile worthy of envy.
What you wear matters. It’s important to make good first impressions, so if you have a good idea of what to wear we’re sure that you’ll look wonderful. Never be afraid to purchase new items purposefully for a date – you deserve to feel comfortable and confident in yourself! A few words about wearing clothing however. It’s important that they fit, and if they don’t you should get them retrofitted or try and find new items. To look good, finding clothes that compliment your body figure without flaunting too much of your body (unless you’d like to of course, there’s no sense in body shaming!) will help you feel comfortable.
Of course, making sure all items match, that they’re well cleaned and are ironed of any creases can go a long way in making you look presentable. Even a white tee and some jeans can look good when you ensure they’re well taken care of. It also matters how you wear certain things. For example, there’s no sense wearing a beautiful dress if it’s too tight on you, or heels if they make you feel awful when trying to take step after step. Your clothes are a representation of who you are – so embed your own personal style here! A little accessory here and there never hurts when it comes to improving your confidence.
Your personality matters. Of course, it’s hard to ‘freshen up’ before a date in this regard without being somewhat false. You should always be relatively comfortable in expressing who you are. After all, if you have to pretend to be someone in order to make someone else like you, then it’s not fitting that that person will meet your genuine needs. There is always someone out there for your real personality, but only if you let it shine will you make that a possibility.
However, there are things you can do to give your personality the edge before heading out. Exercising that day, making sure you have had plenty of sleep and even meditating can help your cognitive abilities stand out, as you’ll be able to access thoughts and enunciate your words much better and in a non-sluggish flow. Of course, the content of what you say also matters.
This doesn’t mean preparing an initial list of talking points that you hope to cover in the scope of the conversation. You’re not attending a speech to sway people over to your political or religious opinion. You’re forming a connection, which means both sides of the table need to be in accordance with one another if the whole thing is going to work. This tip is not really one to do ‘before’ your date, but in general reading, staying on top of current events and being an informed person can work phenomenally in helping you come across as an intelligent and capable person. If they previously mention an obsession or interest they have, then why not read up on it a little beforehand? This isn’t insincere or deceptive at all, showing them you’ve made efforts to learn why they love that so much shows you’re willingness to try and be a gracious partner, and it subtly shows them you’re a person with much more to them than they might have originally assumed.
The best advice you can get regarding your confidence around your personality is to be yourself. Just relax. Try not to be false, even though of course you will be tempted to bring the best of yourself to the entire affair. This also means allowing disagreements, or potentially finding that you and the other person simply do not vibe together well. Not every date you attend will be a complete success. The funny part about this is that most dates will go much more smoothly if you allow them to go wrong, because the whole unnatural setup almost disappears in awkwardness if you do this. You’re a person, they’re a person, and both of you know the whole dating atmosphere is one of artifice and strange expectations. The sooner you can change that atmosphere to one of mutual humor and relaxation, the better you can both bring yourself to the relationship. Who knows where this could lead? You might find a friend or partner for life.
Dating is an exciting time to say the least. There are many possibilities that can occur, from you finding a love and a partner, to falling utterly for someone, to simply enjoying each others presence. It could mean you find someone to travel the world with and craft memories. It could mean you find the person you marry next year. With this, emotions can run high in anticipation. We also all know that feeling when we’re almost head over heels for someone immediately. This can make us act foolishly in our excitement, and come on too strong.
The biggest ‘little thing’ that matters regarding dating confidence is being able to put your emotions in check. Taking a step back and letting them win your affections, and earning theirs is much better than simply giving them away because you find that person attractive or interesting. People are complex, and you never know if you might blow an opportunity with them by being a little too gung-ho in your expectations. We’ve all been on dates with people who seem a little too keen to get hitched with us, and it puts us off. The chase is fun. Allow it to happen with both sides, and see what happens. This way you respect yourself and allow both parties to enjoy a very interesting story regarding the beginning of your relationship.
It also helps you see your own worth from moment to moment. Instead of thinking ‘how can I impress this person immediately?’ think ‘how can I contribute to this reciprocal conversation in a wholesome manner? You can proceed from there.
We absolutely hope that this advice gives you the best dates of your life from here on out. You surely deserve them.
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