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3 Ways to Save a Life

3 Ways to Save a Life

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Suicide is now being treated as an epidemic. With so many people ending their lives prematurely across the USA, it is becoming more and more important that everyone is aware of the signs and symptoms of those having suicidal thoughts so we can save as many lives as possible.

 

The reality is that if we can all be more aware of our friends and family, we might be able to stop this epidemic in its tracks. No matter what the reason for suicidal thoughts, if we can just get the help our friends need, there is a much better chance that they will go on to live a long, happy and healthy life.

Learning About Mental Health and Suicide

It’s not a cheery subject, granted, but learning about all the most common mental health issues is a good way to get grounded in what the medical horizon looks like. Many people with mental health conditions are perfectly capable of leading normal and fulfilled lives and may be so adept at hiding their problem that you simply never know.

 

Depression and suicidal thoughts definitely fall into this category. Many people who go on to commit suicide never gave a hint to their friends and family what they were feeling beforehand and therefore never gave them a chance to help. This is devastating news for everyone involved and learning to identify symptoms or even just checking in on an emotional level every so often could make a significant difference.

 

Relias Academy’s online suicide prevention courses are ideal for giving you all the information you need and suggesting the actions you might want to take. Just remember that if you are concerned for someone, you might want to approach another of their friends or family for a little support. You don’t have to do this on your own and shouldn’t be expected to either.

Being There

When people say “I’m here for you” it often comes across as empty words. If you know that someone is depressed and needs more help, you might be tempted to say this to them but then wait for them to ask for more help when they need it.

 

Asking for help, no matter what the situation, is really hard. Instead of waiting for someone in need to finally come to you, you should ask them direct questions such as “how can I help” or “would it help if I … “. You don’t have to do everything for them, but offering more tangible ways of helping is a lot easier for your friend to either accept or reject. Plus, once you have offered a form of help and followed through, they should become more comfortable in asking for other things.

 

Sometimes the best way to be there for someone is to literally be there. Sitting with a friend, even if you settle into a slightly uncomfortable silence is another tangible way of demonstrating your commitment to the friendship. Being a listening ear is usually the best way to give someone time – especially when they may not know how to phrase their problem in other situations.

Ask Your Friends How They Feel

We are all guilty of asking the question, ‘how are you?’ without stopping to really listen to the answer. And, we are all also guilty of automatically responding, ‘I’m ok.’ This needs to change.

 

Asking your friends how they are feeling and really listening properly to their response is a great way to check in and make sure they are alright. We should be sharing more about how we feel and the pressures we are under, rather than brushing them aside and forgetting about how important our mental health is.

 

Talking to friends about their mental health is a difficult conversation to have but, given that this moment could be the chance they get to find help, it is important that you power through – especially if you are concerned. This is a pretty touchy subject so you should be prepared for your friend to respond badly, but don’t give up. It is important that they know that you are offering a safe space for them to talk things through.

 

Though you can’t be expected to be the only thing standing between a person and their darkest thoughts, these three simple approaches show just how easy it is to do something about the suicide epidemic we face. If we can all take the time to really care for our friends and each other, we will all benefit – suicidal thoughts or not.

US National Suicide Prevention Hotline

1800-273-TALK

OUTSIDE THE US… call your National Emergency for help.

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Dangers That Can Stop Healthy Aging

Dangers That Can Stop Healthy Aging

Aging isn’t optional. It happens us all. There is no stopping the march of time. However, we can ensure that we age in the healthiest way possible, and to do this, you will need to avoid the following dangers. Read on to find out more.

Not eating well

If it’s true, and we really are what we eat, we had better make sure that we are eating well. Especially as we get older, as what we consume can have a major impact on our health and wellbeing in our later years.

In fact, there are quite a few books out there on what to eat to maintain your health into your twilight years. As well as some specific advice on what to do about age-related conditions such as diabetes, arthritis, and dementia.

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Some specialists encourage an organic diet as well, as this ensures that unnecessary chemicals entering the body are minimized. As this is something that can speed up DNA degeneration, responsible for disease and illness. So, it is vital to consider carefully what you are consuming to stay healthy as you age.

Not asking for help

The thing is that as we get older, we can also get a little stubborn. That means we might be less inclined to ask for help when we need it. Even if we could really benefit from some advice or support from others.

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One way to get that support and look after health is to review sites like medicalert.systems for options on medical alarms. These are electronic alerts that allow you to notify someone if you are having a health difficulty, even it’s it hard for your to reach the phone. This can really help you minimize the danger of being left alone with no assistance if you do become ill. Something can have a long-term effect on your health if not treated with speed and accuracy. So if stubbornness is getting in your way, remember there is no shame in asking for the help you need.

Not moving your body

A sedentary lifestyle is bad for us and is especially so as we age. Some people refer to this as the: “Use it or lose phenomena.” Meaning if you don’t use your ability to move and exercise, it’s all too easy to get out of shape and lose them altogether. Something that is likely to have a negative effect on your health. Causing things like weight gain, muscle wastage, and even mental health issues such as depression and anxiety.

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So that means finding doable ways to involve movement in your everyday life. Don’t stress though, you don’t have to start running Ironmans, or spend hours on an exercise bike every day if you don’t want to. Instead look for activities like the ones at bodybuilding.com that get your blood pumping and the oxygen moving around your body, that you enjoy. This could be taking regular walks or hikes in local beauty spots, or going dancing with your friends. As all of these sorts of activities will ensure that you are moving your body and looking preserving your health in the best way possible.

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Why Asking For Help Isn’t A Bad Thing

Why Asking For Help Isn’t A Bad Thing

 

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It’s a big step, asking for help. There are so many of us who never ask for it for fear of being perceived as “weak,” and you would think that the message has been communicated for so long that asking for help or advice is okay now. And it always was, but why is it such an issue for a lot of us? We all end up being consumed with worry over the tiniest thing sometimes, but the big issues we tend to brush over and adopt the stiff upper lip method of carrying on. What are the reasons we tend to avoid asking for help when we are in completely dire situations?

Well, the main thing is that, apart from the perception of being weak, it’s actually the fact that you feel that you are letting yourself down in some way. Even if you know you have a problem, such as an addiction, the fact that you are admitting there is something wrong is communicating the realization that you are weak; and it’s official now that it’s out there. Pride, ego, or sheer self-centeredness are the things that stop us from asking for help. And we can very easily fear asking for help, but unfortunately, it’s something that we are unable to do by ourselves. But what does asking for help accomplish, and what can you do to make it an easier transition to recovery?

Courage

While we all perceive asking for help as a sheer and utter weakness, it’s actually the opposite. It’s your pride and inability to ask for help that makes you weak, and in standing alone to deal with your problems, you might think that it’s easier for you. But if you looked at the impact it has on people you love, that is usually the reason a lot of addicts reach out for help. This is the biggest step in recovering, but it’s also the hardest, and you are showing a lot of courage by asking for help.

Honesty Is The Best Policy

This is the key when asking for help. If you haven’t been honest up to this point, that when you do finally ask for the help you realize you need, it’s time to come clean. Deception, no matter how big or small, doesn’t inspire trust, and it’s the time for a clean slate. The other side of the honesty coin is acceptance. It’s never easy to sit with your faults and accept that you have been dishonest because if it was so easy to be honest, we’d all do it right away to get the help we need without damaging our pride or ego. But the real fact is that when we face up to everything with an honest outlook, only then can we, and our loved ones, move on.

Do You Think You’re A Burden?

When people ask for help, the concern is that they may have put loved ones through enough. It’s common to feel like you’re dead weight, and you’re just a burden to them and nothing more. The fact is, you’re not. Family members won’t help you because they feel it makes life easier for them, it’s because they care about you! When you ask for help it means you are ready to take on board the advice and support of professionals. Whatever addiction you have, you will always have the support of professionals on hand once you’ve reached out. There are organizations like The Recovery Village that are purpose-built to help you not just “dry out,” but to enable you to build a new life that is healthy and happy, independent of the trappings of addiction. Asking for help is all about reaching into yourself for that notion of strength you didn’t realize you had.

You Shouldn’t Feel Embarrassed

Asking for help, regardless of the situation, leaves us in a vulnerable position, and as a result, we can feel very embarrassed when we finally ask for help. But if you decide to open up to your loved ones after toying with the idea, it’s very likely that they’ve already noticed. So don’t feel nervous. Or if they haven’t noticed, they will still want to help you because they care! We all show that we care in different ways, and if they are showing willing to do everything they can to help, then it’s apparent that they care, and it’s important to not be nervous about approaching the subject. They want you to be well and happy above everything else, so asking for help, as difficult as it may be, will lead you towards the best outcome for you.

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