Don’t Screw Up Your Next First Date
It doesn’t matter whether your day job is working as a fisherman on Deadliest Catch or as a sherpa on Mount Everest, going on a first date is pretty much as nerve-wracking, heart-pounding a totally terrifying as life can get. Sure, you risked rejection and leapt into the unknown by asking her on a date, but now you need to walk the tightrope of impressing her without coming on too strong.
This is where most guys fall flat on their face, walking into the same bear traps as so many gentlemen that came before them, inadvertently turning women off on their pursuit of the one.
That’s where we come in. We’ve pulled together a sort of guide to help you avoid making these disastrous mistakes. Sure, some of them may seem a little trivial, while others may seem a little bold but, let’s be real for a second, you don’t get much leeway when it comes to a first date. On paper it’s simple: don’t mess things up. But doing that when you don’t know them yet, that’s the tough part.
- Show Up On Time.
This whole thing about being ‘fashionably late’ doesn’t work on a first date. Or any date for that matter. All it does is tell the beautiful lady sat waiting for you that she isn’t enough of a priority for you to show up on time, and a time that you probably picked. You only get one shot at a first impression, remember that.
- Show Up In Style.
You don’t need to land on a rooftop terrace wearing a parachute having just leapt from a passing helicopter, but you do need to show some form of style when you show up. That could mean you head to cleanharleys.com today, pick up the kind of bike Steve McQueen would ride and pull up outside the bar or it could just mean you know how to look good stepping out of the back of an Uber. Whatever it is, know how to show up in style.
- Listen To Her, Okay.
Don’t get us wrong, she wants to learn more about you. Of course she does. But that doesn’t mean she wants to sit there as you talk at her face, telling her all about your life and giving off the impression you are a narcissist. Instead, show her that you are genuinely interested in her, as this article on manthesis.com explains how to do. Our advice: start off by asking about her job, her ambitions, what made her pick that career and what she wants to accomplish. Letting her know you take her work seriously is what gentlemen do.
- Take Pride In Your Appearance.
If there is one thing you can guarantee from a girl on a first date it’s that she will come looking her best. She’ll do this because she’ll want you to know she a) takes pride in her appearance and b) is an absolute catch. You need to do the same. Now, you don’t need to spend an hour getting ready and trying on every combination of clothes possible but, like we mentioned above, you need to let her know she’s worth the effort of you looking super-suave.
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