Hear it from a Guy: How to Spice up Your Marriage

By Guest Blogger, Robin B.

Hear it from a Guy: How to Spice up Your Marriage

 

When you’re in a marriage or a long-term relationship there’s quite a lot of things you get to enjoy, but as you age, so does your relationship. It can be quite easy to settle in the comfort zone and after some time, when you think about your marriage, the word “spicy” does not come to mind. Settling down doesn’t mean you will have to sacrifice feelings of desire and passion, but it calls for a little bit of work.

 

We’ve done some digging around, and we’ve come across some general tips on how to bring some flare to your married life. This isn’t some kind of a guidebook which will lead you to happiness, but more of a pointer. Every relationship is different, and only you and your partner really know how to address each other’s needs. This article aims to help you out with understanding those needs, so, without much ado, let’s dive in and get straight to it.

Be Creative

In order to keep the excitement in your relationship, you need to keep things interesting. Doing the same things over and over again will eventually make them boring and obsolete. If that has already happened to you, don’t despair, all you need to do is start thinking creatively.

 

Think about your partner and what they like. Think about which things bring them pleasure. Don’t be afraid to make them feel aroused from time to time. Plan an exotic date, take your partner for a couples massage, and make sure your partner is comfortable. You can choose the romantic approach, or you can be a bit naughtier, but the point is to make things as interesting and pleasurable as possible. Making your partner feel desired while feeling something new will most definitely help you feel more connected to them.

 

Change the Scenery

 If you are doing the same thing over and over, there is a great possibility that it will become your routine, and the routine is quite boring. A trip to a foreign country could be a great experience, and if you don’t have the budget for that right now, you can google places that are near you. If you are already doing this, then do it differently from time to time. My advice is to find hotel alternatives such as luxury apartments, and surprise your partner. Don’t go to the same place just because you liked it. Try something new. Create new memories.

Get in Shape

One of the biggest problems in long-term relationships is what sex becomes after some time. As we get older and our body changes, the way we enjoy sex changes as well. But, when you strip it down – sex is a bodily function. This means that your overall health and condition affects the way you have sex quite seriously. There are a lot of things that can go wrong if for example, your cardiovascular health is bad, or if you have high cholesterol level.

 

In order to avoid any serious problems, but also, in order to keep your sex life interesting and healthy, you need to get in shape. Adding regular exercise to your daily routine has an incredible effect on your body and the way you feel about yourself. With regular exercise, you’ll become more energetic, durable and you will enhance your entire immune system.

 

Go Naughty

Another way of avoiding the dread of every-day-life which may consume your marriage is to keep things open and talk to your partner. Having sex should be something you both enjoy, and not just a random act you occasionally try out. If you want to really spice up your marriage, you should start talking about your sex life and your fantasies with each other.

 

There are a lot of things you can do, for example, you can take your partner to a sex toy shop and find what would be interesting to try out together. Try to understand what turns your partner on, and how to do exactly that. You can even seek some professional help, if you’re brave enough, that may help you revitalize your sex life altogether. The most important thing is to talk with your partner and define clear boundaries.

 

Final thoughts

Sex is a large part of all marriages, and it’s a large part of basically any romantic relationship, but it’s not the point of any relationship. In order to really spice up your marriage, you need to think about small things, things that make your partner happy. Be detailed and try to surprise them as often as you can. You will be surprised how much your sex life and sex drive will change, once you focus on your partner more than on the sex itself.

Sex is a large part of all marriages, and it’s a large part of basically any romantic relationship, but it’s not the point of any relationship. In order to really spice up your marriage, you need to think about small things, things that make your partner happy. Be detailed and try to surprise them as often as you can. You will be surprised how much your sex life and sex drive will change, once you focus on your partner more than on the sex itself.

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