In A Relationship Rut? Here’s What You Can Do!
Accepting that your relationship is over is never easy. The majority of people in the world subscribe to long-term, monogamous relationships, which is the norm set out for us by society. Therefore, when most of us get into relationships, especially as adults, there tends to be an unspoken rule regarding the longevity of the relationships. But, as much as a relationship might seem perfect at the time, it is possible for cracks to develop, and before we know it, we are heading for a separation. This can be incredibly distressing, especially if you thought you were going to be with that person forever. In this kind of scenario, many of us struggle to know what path to take, especially if we have never been through a breakup before. But before rushing into anything drastic, you may want to weigh up your options about what to do if you think your relationship is over.
All too often, people mistake ‘the spark fading’ for their relationship being over in its entirety. The truth is, for most couples, the honeymoon period does come to an end after a while, and that is when real life hits you. Breaking up with someone just because this honeymoon period has ended could be the start of a series of unhealthy relationships – after all, if you are constantly chasing the high of a new relationship, you will struggle to commit to someone on a long-term basis. See if there are some things you can do to re-ignite the spark in your relationship rather than just cutting it off. Going out on dates, talking openly about your feelings and putting an emphasis on intimacy are all things you can do to make you feel closer to your partner. If you still love them and trust them, it can definitely be worth putting in this effort.
Break it off entirely
If you have been feeling down about your relationship for some time – perhaps you and your partner fight a lot, and it is wearing you down – your best option may be just to cut it off completely. This can often be easier said than done. For example, if you are married you may need to lay out some kind of separation agreement, which means getting the courts involved. Even if you are not married to your partner, it can still take guts to leave, especially if you do still care about them. But dragging it out can only make things worse – if you need to go, do what’s best for you and leave when you can.
Have a trial separation
This one can be risky, as some people see it as merely an excuse to cheat on their partner without getting into trouble. But a trial separation should be exactly that – spending some time without your partner, on your own, to think about things. If you are tempted to see other people during that time, it’s a sure fire sign that you are probably not meant to be together after all.
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