The Dos And Don’ts Of Ending A Relationship When Kids Are Involved
Bringing a relationship to an end is always very difficult. But it is made even harder when the two of you have children. Even though young children always seem to take everything in their stride, they might find this a very distressing experience. After all, no one wants their parents to split up! Thankfully, there are some things to ensure that the separation is a lot easier on your children. You just need to follow these dos and dont’s.
Do Be As Civil As Possible
You and your partner may not be in each other’s good books any longer, but that is no reason to fight and argue whenever you see each other. Especially when the kids are around. No child wants to see their parents constantly argue so you should both endeavor to be as civil as possible when in each other’s company. If you find that too difficult to manage, you will be better off using a mediator to contact one another.
Don’t Start A Legal Battle
Ending a relationship is one thing but ending a marriage is another. For this, you will both need a divorce attorney. Once you start the legal proceedings, things can go one of two ways. Either you can both come to an agreement, and the divorce will be done and dusted before you even know it. Or you can fight things out until the bitter end in a lengthy legal battle. This second option will take it out on you both, but it can also have a very negative impact on your children. It will be in everyone’s best interest if you try and get all the legal side over and done with, with as little stress as possible.
Don’t Make Your Kids Pick A Side
Some parents try and get their kids on their side to try and get one over on their ex. But the end of your relationship shouldn’t turn into a contest of who can get all the kids on their side. Just because you and your ex no longer love each other, doesn’t mean that your kids need to stop loving your partner just because you say so. Again, this is only going to cause unnecessary stress and hurt for your children.
Do Avoid Overcompensating
Parents often worry about their kids as they work through the end of a relationship. As a result, they often try and overcompensate for the situation by spoiling them. However, this shouldn’t be an excuse for your kids to get anything that they want. At the end of the day, no amount of new material things will make for the emotional stress that the breakup will put them through. Rather than simply buying them meaningless things, you should be there emotionally for them, and offer them all the love and support that they need.
Divorce and a breakups are hard on anyone. But you shouldn’t forget about your kids in this situation. Don’t forget to offer them a shoulder to cry on during this difficult time.
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